The comment came from a parent, not from the coach

To comment I guess we really needed to be there.
Perhaps you were too forceful in your tone.
Perhaps the other person was over reacting.

Encouragement of your son is great, as long as it doesn’t go against what the coach has instructed the team as a whole. So often I see at my sons basketball game, the coach has instructed the team work with set formations and strategies, but a certain parent will just keep yelling different instructions to their son, that counteract what the coach has said. This makes the poor kid confused and you can see that the kids doesn’t know who they should be listening to. It is also annoying for the rest of the crowd to hear that parent yelling solidly the entire game. Think about the enjoyment of everyone else as well as being there for your son.

Encouraging him on the sidelines demonstrates your support. While it’s essential to let coaches coach, your involvement seems motivated by love and support. Perhaps finding a balance can resolve this conflict. Keep focusing on the joy of the game while supporting your son’s competitive spirit. The incident might not represent the team as a whole, so consider discussing your concerns with the coaches or administration. Remember, nurturing his enthusiasm for the sport should be the priority.

Just do what is good for you kid and forget about everyone else.

If your boy doesn’t mind, keep it up. At least you’re not abusing anyone, just encouraging your child. I too had a son who had to sit and watch others get academic acknowledgement at school. It’s really hard and often results in the child not wanting to try. You’re lucky your boy has another passion

If your son loves hearing you yell encouragement from the sidelines, don’t stop just for that a**hole. If it bothers you that much, move to the side so you’re not near anyone else. Just be there for your son and enjoy your time with him. They grow up way too fast

Just ignore the comment and do what’s best for your child and what your child wants no need to reply to the parent let the coach do that.

Hard call. I vertically grew up on a soccer field. It was my fathers passion. But when a devoting parents goes overboard, its then not about the game and enjoyment, but greediness to win.

If you’re happy, your child is happy and the coach is happy who cares what anyone else thinks!

I believe school sport should be about participation, having fun with your friends and learning that being active is an enjoyable activity, no matter what sport it is. It should be about learning skills and teamwork, dedication to training and the team rather than winning. Kids have all their teenage & adult life to be involved in competitive sport. In my opinion, if you push too hard as a parent when they are young, they burn out and don’t want to play as they get older. Let them enjoy their childhood!

There’s a different between coaching and encouraging. As long as you’re not giving direction that is different to what the coach may have told him. Alternative is to look for another team.

Personally I’m encouraging my kids it’s nothing to do with anyone else.

Depends on the child really. Being an introvert My daughter would have hated it but it didn’t bother my son. Also, not only what you say but how you say it. If you honestly think your son is okay with it, then ignore the other parent.

Goodness, you’re berated for encouraging your child!

I think the other parent needs to mind his own business. There’s nothing wrong with what this mum was saying.

Hi,
My daughter has been playing soccer since she was 5 yrs old , I have been to every game and believe me I was one for cheering her on .
As long as your comments are encouraging and harmless whats the big deal.
Hope your son continues his love for soccer as my daughter has for 30 years .Proud
#soccermum .

You have been given so much of the same advice. You shouldn’t back away from supporting and encouraging your child with what he excels at especially if it has the possibility of him losing momentum, you not being able to see your child at his best emotionally and physically and it creates a big whole in the time you get to spend with him.
I was a netball couch to 2 teams under 15, the observing older sister of a player and I am an ex netball player.
One team I coached had another parent who was an ex player and very vocal as well who apparently had the same problem. It only took 1 match to see something was wrong. I believe that as a coach you don’t just need the players on your team at that age your parents are just as important to the team because they know the kids best and can instigate practice at home. I approached her and asked if everyone was OK.
She explained that she had an parent from the other team tell her that her input was unnecessary and everyone would greatly appreciate it if she shut up. So she took it in and decided that she was one person and if she was unknowingly annoying the masses she would stop.
Her daughter also found the personal tips and reminders helpful as she felt that there was a lot to pay attention to and sometimes would need mum to point it out. I had no problem with it, I have a whole team to run with and can’t really make sure that every player is in prime position, and the key was that she wasn’t rude abusive or over the top and all her comments were made to her daughter, she was over ruling me with the team, or undermining me to others and if she didn’t know anything she would come tome instead of making up any BS.
The other parent was someone she bumped into once maybe 2 times when the girls played each other, the people that mattered was her daughter and I who both found her yelling helpful to the game, the other parents from our team who found it git them more exited and into the game and even some of the there girls would listen for things that they might have forgotten or aren’t doing. Above all the passion for the game and time with her daughter would have died if she had of changed who she is.

So my point is you not doing your thing with your kid, doesn’t matter what that is, over the thoughts feelings and words of someone you encounter once or twice will cause so much more harm than good, so if everyone involved- you, your son and coach- have no problem then why not. I would suggest you ok it by fellow parents in the team maybe at a team function night or something to make sure everyone is happy- how they feel about minor reminders and encouragement from yourself during matches, making sure its clear instructions are for the coach only.

Sorry for the rant but I guess I have been on all sides. So hopefully my POV will help

Personally I wouldn’t take the opinion of a stranger too serious and brush it off. You know your child, he doesn’t.
When it’s something you doubt about, you could talk with the coach and ask if he thinks your approach isn’t appropriate

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 04 Oct 2023 , 7:26 am

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  I agree; shake off the comment and move forward and focus on positives.

Maybe talk to the coach and ask if your comments are interfering with him/her. Talk to your child too and make sure they are not embarrassed by too much input but being polite.