A mum who is just as passionate about soccer as her young son, says she had an altercation with another parent on the sidelines, which has made her question their involvement in the team.

The mum says her eight-year-old son absolutely loves playing soccer, and has become very dedicated.

“It’s not just a hobby it’s a passion,” she explained. “I fully support him and take him to training, extra practice, matches etc. It’s very much become our bond which we both love.”

She says soccer has become his focus, particularly as it’s something he’s good at.

“I would also like to add that academically my son doesn’t excel, he sits and watches all the other kids at school get certificates for maths, spellings, star of the week which he accepts no problem because his goal is to get player of the match on a Sunday.

“This weekend I had a little spat on the sideline with another parent because I was encouraging my son and he thought I was acting more like a coach rather than a parent? I was telling my son to keep on his toes, keep his chin up, keep moving into space etc.. all which my son loves and appreciates.

“He said I was bang out of order and should let the coaches do the talking.”

“He said they are all playing for fun and should be enjoying the game (which I don’t dispute) but my son wants to win, wants to compete and wants to achieve. Is my son wrong in wanting to win?

“Am I being unreasonable to think who the f**k do you think you are?

“I absolutely love my soccer weekends with my son but this has really made me not want to be part of this team.”

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  • Encouragement of your son is great, as long as it doesn’t go against what the coach has instructed the team as a whole. So often I see at my sons basketball game, the coach has instructed the team work with set formations and strategies, but a certain parent will just keep yelling different instructions to their son, that counteract what the coach has said. This makes the poor kid confused and you can see that the kids doesn’t know who they should be listening to. It is also annoying for the rest of the crowd to hear that parent yelling solidly the entire game. Think about the enjoyment of everyone else as well as being there for your son.


  • Encouraging him on the sidelines demonstrates your support. While it’s essential to let coaches coach, your involvement seems motivated by love and support. Perhaps finding a balance can resolve this conflict. Keep focusing on the joy of the game while supporting your son’s competitive spirit. The incident might not represent the team as a whole, so consider discussing your concerns with the coaches or administration. Remember, nurturing his enthusiasm for the sport should be the priority.


  • Just do what is good for you kid and forget about everyone else.


  • If your boy doesn’t mind, keep it up. At least you’re not abusing anyone, just encouraging your child. I too had a son who had to sit and watch others get academic acknowledgement at school. It’s really hard and often results in the child not wanting to try. You’re lucky your boy has another passion


  • If your son loves hearing you yell encouragement from the sidelines, don’t stop just for that a**hole. If it bothers you that much, move to the side so you’re not near anyone else. Just be there for your son and enjoy your time with him. They grow up way too fast


  • Just ignore the comment and do what’s best for your child and what your child wants no need to reply to the parent let the coach do that.


  • Hard call. I vertically grew up on a soccer field. It was my fathers passion. But when a devoting parents goes overboard, its then not about the game and enjoyment, but greediness to win.


  • If you’re happy, your child is happy and the coach is happy who cares what anyone else thinks!


  • I believe school sport should be about participation, having fun with your friends and learning that being active is an enjoyable activity, no matter what sport it is. It should be about learning skills and teamwork, dedication to training and the team rather than winning. Kids have all their teenage & adult life to be involved in competitive sport. In my opinion, if you push too hard as a parent when they are young, they burn out and don’t want to play as they get older. Let them enjoy their childhood!


  • There’s a different between coaching and encouraging. As long as you’re not giving direction that is different to what the coach may have told him. Alternative is to look for another team.


  • Personally I’m encouraging my kids it’s nothing to do with anyone else.


  • Depends on the child really. Being an introvert My daughter would have hated it but it didn’t bother my son. Also, not only what you say but how you say it. If you honestly think your son is okay with it, then ignore the other parent.


  • Goodness, you’re berated for encouraging your child!


  • I think the other parent needs to mind his own business. There’s nothing wrong with what this mum was saying.


  • Hi,
    My daughter has been playing soccer since she was 5 yrs old , I have been to every game and believe me I was one for cheering her on .
    As long as your comments are encouraging and harmless whats the big deal.
    Hope your son continues his love for soccer as my daughter has for 30 years .Proud
    #soccermum .


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