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“Can I talk to you?” a teacher asked my daughter at school. It was recess and although she didn’t really want to miss out on playing with her friends, she obliged.

“Your little brother is running around the school telling everyone that his new baby sister’s name is Black Hamster” she told my daughter. Amused, but far from surprised my daughter told the teacher that that’s what her little brother and her mum “call it”.

“So your mother calls the baby Black Hamster?” the teacher asked.

“No, that’s what my brother calls Black Panther – Black Hamster. My mum just plays along so that she doesn’t hurt his feelings”.

“That’s lovely! But what did your mother name the baby?” the teacher pressed becoming more and more confused.

Name Interrogation

This question is one that I am bugged about from the moment people find out I’m pregnant to the minute I announce what it is. It’s something that I feel is really bizarre because firstly I don’t rush the naming process and secondly what other people name their children doesn’t phase me.

I have people getting each member of their family to contact me asking what I plan on naming my baby- as though they believe that someone might be able to interrogate it out of me… But until it’s on a birth certificate in my hand I don’t breathe a word to anyone other than my hubby.

It Wasn’t Easy

This time around was incredibly difficult! I had to try and find a name that blended well with siblings who are named Lioness, Lionheart, Wolfgang, Lion, Soulmate – names you don’t hear everyday. But I think I found something just as unique!

But What’s Her Name?

“Black Panther!” my daughter told her.

“You need to let your mother know that your brother is telling everyone the baby’s name” the teacher said to my daughter. And she did. It was the first thing she told me as she saw me after school.

I turned to my little boy and congratulated him on a job well done! He shared his news with pride and joy. Sure, he may have confused a hamster with a Panther, but then as the beautiful saying goes ‘a rose by any other name would smell as sweet’.

Her Name Is NOT The Most Important Thing

What truly does matter is what she is, not what she is called. And she is the happiest, most beautiful, healthy baby girl. She can always change her name later in life if she so desires, but for now, she is my Black Panther and I feel incredibly blessed to have her in our lives.

In a world where nothing is guaranteed, perhaps focusing on whether a baby is born alive and healthy is far greater than worrying about what it’s parents name it.

If we lived in a world with no judgment, would a baby’s name still be such a major concern…

Should parents care less about what others think of their choice of name for their kids? Tell us what you think in the comments below.

  • First off I also wouldn’t officially name a baby until it’s born. Secondly if you love the names so much why can’t they be nicknames. You are setting your children up to be bullied at school and ridiculed in life. It’s up to you what you name your children but if I met them I would only be addressing them as young miss and young master. Makes me wonder what your name is and if you are just following a family tradition. I always wish that someone’s baby is born healthy and don’t really focus on their name. I grew up getting boys gifts when we went to Lion’s Christmas parties because it was generally thought of as a boy’s name more than a girl’s. Hopefully you will let them change their names when they are young if they want to. But it all boils down to the fact that they are your children and you can name them anything you want and no-one can tell you otherwise.

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  • But the baby isn’t really named Black Panther though, right? It’s a nickname.

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  • I would hate to be this child and get teased all my life over my name. Pity parents don’t think of this when they name their children. To me it is an awful thing to put a child through.

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  • About the only thing I agree with her is the last comment that people should care about a baby being born alive more than others opinions of the name.
    (Being born healthy is another big bear of mine as many kids are born with chronic illness or a disability- this doesn’t mean they’re any less worthy or any less worth celebrating the birth)

    But those names – seriously?? It’s not a matter of judgement or other people’s opinions- the name of a baby/child is what’s part of their identity. It doesn’t just affect them at school, potential bullying etc. but into adulthood too. Imagine applying for a job and your resume says ‘lioness’, ‘black panther’ or ‘soulmate’. No way. These aren’t names. And 3 kids with lion in their name??? Just not right.


    • I feel for the child, as she is the one who is going to find it hard when she grows up. The mother may like it , however it’s the child who is going to have to continually being asked about her name l

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  • Whilst I agree that she has the right to keep the name to herself until after she officially decides, I did the same. I had a few boys names but only one girls name picked out, but wanted to meet my baby first before deciding. Thankfully the girls name I picked suited because I had a daughter. As for this woman’s particular choice of baby names, well, her taste is pretty crap. I think she is setting her kids up for a lot of bullying.

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  • I think you’re just setting your child up for a life of bullying and question and shame. My son has a different name, not terribly so, but he hates how he always has to repeat it and spell it. And his name is not that unusual. He gets called many versions of it and was often bullied, including his name being used in a derogatory way. My son is a beautiful, empathetic, sensitive, caring, loyal kid, but unfortunately, others are not so and he’s had to learn some hard lessons because of it.

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  • Wow, certainly a different name, just hope the mother chose the name out of love. Kids can be very cruel and let’s hope this child is not bullied at school for having a different name.

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  • So three of your kids have a variation of lion for their names? I see you are going for uniqueness- but that basically turns them into versions of junior. I think you need to be mindful of I’m the influence popular culture has – Black painter is less original and more an image to the actual character

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  • Well it sure is a interesting name.. each to their own I guess, but you have to remember your naming your child, a person who has to grow up with that name. If you truly love that name and believe it’s a true fit for your child, than good for you.. but if you are naming your child purely to get noticed on social media your a selfish lowlife..

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  • Not sure how I feel on this one. It’s ok to not share your name but having your kids running around at school with silly names sounds rather immature too?

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  • Good on her for teaching kids to be proud despite what others think.

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  • I only ever spoke to my partner about name choices. It was up to us so it wasn’t important what anyone else thought

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  • I’m all for finding unique names but, you must remember that the child has to live with that name and something too strange or bizarre could result in bullying at school …..

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  • Lol, suit yourself. At the end of the day, the kid didn’t pick their name… *you* did. They have to live with that for the rest of their lives (until they change it by deed poll)

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  • I would never name my child that but good on her for going with the flow and choosing another different name.
    Hopefully the child doesn’t hate it when she’s older.

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