Parenting teenagers is very different from parenting babies, and I think we make it up as we go along. This dad decided that the best ‘punishment’ for his daughter was making her sleep outside. Did he go too far?
A 46-year-old dad noticed that his teen daughter, who’d recently turned 16, had started changing. Her attitude was ruder than normal and she was becoming quite judgemental. He shared on reddit, “I noticed recently that she’s been behaving in a bad manner constantly commenting on other people’s looks, belongings, calling them stuff that isn’t cool and just being insensitive.”
He put this change down to a new friendship group, “It’s like she lost a filter or something because usually she’s polite but my wife suspected that our daughter’s sudden misbehavior occurred after she started hanging out with new girls from the school. Basically the mean type and have picked on their behavior.”
They’ve flagged this change in behaviour with their teen, telling her it’s not OK, “I’ve sat with my daughter and had many discussions about how her behavior has been negatively affecting everyone around her.”
The target of this teen’s attitude and snarky remarks is their housemaid, “Our housemaid is the person most affected here and my daughter has chosen her to be her target for hair, clothes, “etiquette” criticism. She has complained about our daughter calling her offensive names like filthy and gross for cleaning certain areas in our house. I took a stand and explicitly told my daughter I’d punish her if she ever said stuff like that to our housemaid again.”
“Last week my daughter had a party to go to, earlier that day she called our housemaid “filthy” so I grounded her by not letting her go to the party. She threw a fit and called our housemaid a liar saying she never called her that. That was the end of it,” the father shared.
The teen daughter couldn’t find her phone, the dad shared, “Days later my daughter came to me saying she couldn’t find her iPhone after looking everywhere. She asked me to call her number and I did. My wife and I were stunned to discover that the iPhone was ringing inside our housemaid’s bag.”
The dad confronted their housemaid, “I had a confrontation with her immediately and she denied and cried saying she never touched the phone nor had any idea how it got there. I noticed my daughter calling her thief repeatedly so I told her to stop and go to her room.”
Trying to understand what happened, the dad checked their surveillance cameras, “I checked the indoor camera before continuing the argument and saw my daughter place her iPhone inside our housemaid’s bag, I was livid. I apologised to the housemaid and gave her the rest of the day off.”
He then confronted his daughter, “I then showed the video to my daughter and she was absolutely speechless. I said what she did was immoral and straight up offensive to tamper with that poor woman’s livelihood over a petty party she couldn’t go to. I told her she was grounded and will have to spend the night in the backyard (she is a germaphobe) but she cried begging me to not make her sleep with the dirt, insects and hot temp.”
He didn’t back down, “I refused to discuss it or I’d make it 2 nights. My wife said I should go easy on her but I said calling people filthy and accusing them of stealing wasn’t ok in fact it was the absolute worst, I then went through with my punishment.”
Do you think the punishment was fair?