What would you do if your mother-in-law very obviously favoured one of your children over the other? This mum decided to stop all contact, and her family isn’t happy.
The mum-of-two explains that her mother-in-law went from having no grandchildren, to three grandsons in the space of 13 months.
“My son is the third grandson and my MIL never showed much of an interest in him. She didn’t visit at all in the first year and would never call to see how he was,” she explained on reddit. “Both myself and my husband would send her pictures and updates but she very rarely responded. At his first birthday party she showed up 2 hours late and left after about 45 minutes to go to her daughter’s house.
“The way she acts with her other two grandsons has always been the complete opposite. She would visit them regularly and on the rare occasion she responded to pictures of our son it would be with pictures of the other two boys.”
But here’s where the situation gets even trickier. The mum had her second baby this year, a little girl. The first granddaughter for her mother-in-law, who was ‘delighted’.
“She has visited us numerous times to see our daughter but completely ignores our son every time. He tries to interact with her and she says, ‘Not now I’m holding the baby,’ and other similar phrases. This bothers me as it hurts to see him pushed to the side like that. I feel if she’s not interested in her grandson then why be interested in her granddaughter. I told her she couldn’t come to my home to exclude my son while interacting with and spoiling my daughter.”
Once it started to become painfully obvious that her mother-in-law was favouring one of her grandchildren over the other, the upset mum confronted her.
“She shows up with gifts for my daughter and never anything for my son. This resulted in an argument as she said she’s entitled to spoil her granddaughter if she wants to. I responded by telling her until she can treat my children equally she won’t be seeing either of them. If she doesn’t want to buy anything for my son that’s perfectly fine, I don’t expect her to but I won’t have him growing up watching his sister get spoilt by her when he’s completely ignored by her.
“She called me an ungrateful b&*^h and left. Since then my SIL and BIL have both said I’d be an a**h*le to deprive my daughter of that relationship and I just need to suck it up for the sake of my daughter. My husband agrees with me and is on my side completely, but their reaction has me doubting myself. So would I be the a**h*le for not allowing my MIL to see my daughter because of how she treats my son?”
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