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“I should have drowned you at birth” a mother told her extremely young child.

The child was too young to fully understand the concept of drowning and death so she just looked up at her mother pretending to understand.

As the years grew, so too did the description of the mother’s vile sentence.

It Got Worse

“When my friend gave me a laundry bucket as a gift when you were born, I should have drowned you in it. Nobody would have ever blamed me!” There were so many words this time that the child was somewhat amused.

She looked at her mother, picturing a baby in a bucket splashing around and it reminded her of her favourite movie at the time- “Dumbo”… she tried as hard as she could not to giggle at the thoughts in her head, but ultimately a few would escape her lips, sending her mother into an even wilder fury.

By the time the child was a teenager the sentence added far more description and accusations but had less of a storyline.

The Abuse Didn’t Stop!

“You’re a s**t. You will never amount to anything. I should have drowned you when I had the chance”.

The once innocent child, now teenager, understood every painful word. There was no longer any daydreaming and replacing the hurt with amusing childish thoughts. She was too old for that, yet too young to understand the depth of the situation.

In reality, there is nothing any child could ever do that is so wrong to have these words imposed on them. However, the child carried it with her every day of her life.

It was only once she reached adulthood and became a mother herself that she realised her worth.

It All Changed When She Became A Mum

Becoming a mother freed her soul and opened her eyes. Because no child is worthless, useless, and no living being deserves to constantly hear that they would be better off dead.

She still sees her mother, unfortunately, on the odd occasion as there is no escaping that, but there is a new ploy her mother enjoys to taunt her with…

And Still It Continues….

The mother, now a grandmother, insists on having her grandchildren call her “Mummy”. It is written on every birthday and Christmas card. And when her grandchildren call their mother “Mummy” she corrects them saying “no, I am your Mummy- you can call her Mum”… but this is something to share with you another day…

Please be kind with your words towards your children, the way you speak to them will have an influence on them for the rest of their lives.

Sadly not all mums are instinctively motherly. What words of advice would you have for this mum? Tell us in the comments below.

  • This made me cry. Some people just don’t deserve to be mothers

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  • Bloody disgusting behaviour and doesnt deserve to be called a mother or a grand mother.

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  • Such a sad story.Mums love their kids with all their heart and soul..But their temper is a different story..Hope all mums think twice before they shout at kids and breath and go to another room for few minutes till the thoughts can be recollected.

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  • I don’t know how anyone can do that to another living thing. Its bullying, abuse and no one should have to tolerate it.

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  • There’s a difference between not being motherly and just being a downright nasty bully! That is child abuse!

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  • I have no words that is truly horrible. She needs to get professional help

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  • What a vile disgusting person this person is. She is lucky that she is allowed anywhere near her grandchildren. Words cut deep and hurtful ones such as this will stick for life and have an everlasting impact. We need to protect our children from the poison these types of people dish out…

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  • Ongggg that’s awful. I would cut her off

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  • I would not let your child be around someone like this, blood or not!

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  • It is absolutely okay to disconnect from family, and sometimes it is absolutely necessary. I have done this. Although it took me so many years, I no longer feel any guilt about it. My job is to protect my child and keep them safe, and that is all that matters to me. My immediate family – hubby, son and I. The rest are just my relatives — as a dear friend so kindly put it to me.

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  • Wow, I’d move away from her and cut all ties it’s just not worth being around someone so toxic.

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  • Oh gosh, that is quite extreme.

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  • Sadly not all mums are instinctively motherly indeed !
    The article says she still sees her mother unfortunately and there is no escaping that; how come there is no escaping that ? I would take distance and cut the cords. But from my experience with fostering children who have experienced trauma by their parents; their hearts still always longs for the parents no matter how abusive they were !
    The same you see by many cases of kidnapping / hostage-taking whereby a victim develops feelings of trust / connection towards a captor (Stockholm Syndrome).
    And how many children of abusive alcoholic parents enter a relationship with a alcoholic abuse partner themselves ?
    On another note this daughter may just have the ability to forgive !

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  • So sad to read this. Sure she is in stressful situation.

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  • Unless you somehow feel some compassion for your mother or you feel your children will be slighted by not knowing their grandmother, I would not be visiting or entertaining her in your life in any way. She did not show you any love or compassion while you grew up and is still trying to punish you for some slight she feels you caused. She is wrong, and your children would honestly be better off not knowing this quite abusive person.

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