If things aren’t great now, not sure how it will be when bubs is born?

All relationships are give and take, however when they become one way for an extended period, then a rebalance needs to occur. Your friend hopefully will think about this disagreement and realise it’s been quite one side for awhile. If not unfortunately not all relationships are forever…a reason, a season and a lifetime.

Give the situation a little time to cool…then visit with a offering of a sweet treat, cake etc and explain you also deserve to be thought about and heard and the friendship is a two way street.

Friendship is about give and take and while pregnancy does tend to consume your every waking moment I can understand that at the time you probably wanted to talk about something else especially given your recent break up and the reasons surrounding it. You probably shouldnt have reacted the way you did but your friend could have been more sensitive to the situation as well.

It sounds like they were both tired and unwell and that didn’t help… I would say that if she can grit her teeth for a few months, she will eventually get more of her friend back. Pregnancy is huge but once you’ve had the baby it’s easier to find a bit of balance.

I understand both sides. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion

I can see both sides but you have to understand that at the moment her being pregnant is all consuming…..because it is and the fact that she has asked you along to the appointments shows how much she values you as a friend. She placed you high up the list and you pretty much just threw it back in her face so at the moment her not answering your texts is not just anger its deep and bitter hurt. She her flowers and a note saying you are very sorry for being such a twit.

It goes both ways! Being honest and having a conversation with each other is best

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 26 Apr 2023 , 6:28 am

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  Absolutely! An honest and sensitive conversation might be in order.

I find it more annoying when they can’t stop talking about weddings… babies are at least cute!

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  • • mom492462 replied
    • 26 Apr 2023 , 7:56 pm

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  Wedding talk no thanks
  I 100% agree

Friendships are give and take, it’s pretty normal to talk about what’s happening in your own life, and for your friend that involves being pregnant.

I can understand both sides but your friend needs to realise not everyone wants to have children or they can’t carry a child. She should have curbed talking about her pregnancy knowing that you had just broken up with your boyfriend. She is lucky to have someone she can talk to besides her husband but I think she could have given it a rest for one day and focused on what you were going through. I’m hoping you can both reconcile your friendship and set boundaries on when it’s appropriate and when not to talk about pregnancy and children.

This is probably the wrong site to post this…
Good or bad, pregnancy it all encompassing and self involving. The mother guess through physical brain changes so that she focuses only on providing and looking after her baby. She won’t have much left to give you at this time.

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  • • cherz replied
    • 27 Apr 2023 , 4:04 pm

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  Sorry I disagree ..if this mum site is not the place to ask questions about this topic …what is.

In a friendship there should be space for both parties, give and take. I can understand it’s annoying your friend turns all conversations about herself and her pregnancy. It can be hard to tell a friend she’s annoying. I would step back for a bit, maybe your friend is going to think a bit and turn around.

Her friend is going through something big and all the body changes, etc. when you’re pregnant it’s all consuming and you don’t think about a lot of other things. I think both friends need to be understanding of each other. The pregnant friend may not be intentionally trying to make everything about her, but she needs to show care and support to her friend who is going through the breakup. Likewise the other friend needs to have patience with her pregnant friend and telling her she doesn’t care isn’t the best tack.

Friendships need to be equal. Life is not all about someone’s life.

Whether it’s pregnancy, relationships. work….the conversation should not always be all about one person’s issues. You may have handled it better but your friend should have been there for you that night too.

Friendships are about sharing and that includes conversation and it has to be equal and not one sided regardless of life stages and topics.

It’s hard when you’re at different life stages. I think your feelings are valid and the relationship can be repaired.

Sounds like a little break from each other would be good. Pregnancy was horrible for me and it did start to dominate many conversations. It can be hard to see that in the thick of hormones, etc. Write a letter explaining your feelings and then its less heat of the moment words. Reread it and then decide if you want to send it, have another conversation or something else. I had to say to friends dont ask how I am unless they really wanted to know. as I would be honest and really they were just being polite.

I can understand your feelings about this. I would just wait a while and see if she comes round to an easier relationship with you. After all, you have said you will be there at the birth for your friend, and it is she who will miss out in the long run.