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My little girl recently discovered the delights of the “roundy roundy swing” – a big round swing that also spins.

All day she had been begging to go to the park that has this swing, so, once we had done everything else we had to , off we went.
When we got there, there were quite a few people at the park, but no one on “her” swing. Giggling like mad, she raced over.
Right as she got there, some bigger girls ran over, and pushed her out of the way. On they jumped, and started swinging.
Now, there is room for several kids, so I stopped the swing, picked up my girl, and told these larger girls they could share.
As I started to seat her, another one of their friends literally shoved her off.

I decided not to make an issue, and told my little one “Not all children have learned how to share. We will play on another toy until it is your turn” I was delighted -she didn’t cry or meltdown, just moved to the normal swing. But she watched “her” swing like a hawk, waiting for them to get off.
Two mothers tag teamed pushing these girls, knowing full well we were waiting our turn. Normally at parks I have found in cases like this, parents will let their kids have a few minutes, then allow someone else to have a turn.

After nearly 30 minutes, I decided to step in.
I waited right next to the swing with my girl, and was ignored.

“Excuse me” I said. “My little girl was actually here first, and these kids shoved her aside. As they have now had such a long turn, and we have to leave soon, could you please let my child have a go?”
Well – she firstly told me to get over myself – it was a park and I didn’t own the equiptment. Then she yelled at me for accusing her girls of pushing in.
I looked her in the eye, and quietly said ” I apologise. I can now see exactly where your childrens bad manners come from”
She was stunned into silence, removed her kids, and my girl got her turn!!!!

I usually never stand up to someone like that, and it was very empowering!

This real story is by KATELT
  • Great job, well done mum. The art if sharing is such a wonderful personality trait, one that needs nurturing

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  • Really interesting article! Thanks for sharing this!

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  • Good on you! Children learn by watching and understand that they need to make their voice heard to make their presence felt.

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  • The same thing happens at some hotels that have indoor play rooms which are meant for small children. Many parents have such a great time that they don’t bother to keep an eye on their children. Sadly some let their kids behave like ferals, hurting others and then teasing them. We no longer allow our children to go in there until most of the others have left.

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  • nice read, sharing is just so important. but at some stage kids don’t just want to do it, and so do we…

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  • I always feel very scared to confront people, even if I’m in the right… Thanks for this encouraging article.

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  • Good on you. That must have felt fantastic.

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  • there are a lot of kids in this world whose parents haven’t taught them to share

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  • good on you for standing up to them

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  • lucky I never meet a person liket that who had a bad manner

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  • You were very brave, well done for following through, what a great example for your daughter.

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  • Thank you for sharing! :)

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  • Thanks for sharing this great article to read

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  • Good on you for doing this.

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  • thanks for sharing was a great read

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