The mum said she always liked dressing her daughters the same and didn’t see a problem until someone questioned her decision…

A concerned mum has taken to popular parenting forum Mumsnet to ask if she is being unreasonable to dress her daughters the same. The mum-of-two says that the girls are not always dressed in matching outfits, but she often enjoys putting them in similar or the same clothes, particularly for special occasions.

Cute Or Tacky?

The mum said her daughters are equally enthusiastic about coordinating their outfits.

“I have two young daughters (2&4) and I love dressing them in matching clothes,” she said.

“For reference, they both love it too and get excited when they have the same on. I would stop when they don’t enjoy it of course.”

The mum admits she had never considered any negative consequences of her decision until someone questioned her about how her daughters would develop their own individuality, prompting her to ask the forum if she was doing them more harm than good…


Children Are Different

Comments on the post were mixed, with some recounting their own experience of being dressed like their siblings from a young age.

“I absolutely detested it when my mum dressed me and my sister the same,” wrote one forum user.

“Even looking back now, the pictures annoy me.”

“I figure kids are individuals and I like to reflect that, but each to their own,” wrote another.

Despite some criticism, others pointed out the innocence of what the mum was doing.

“I don’t see an issue so long as they do actually love it and are excited by it,” said one parent. “I also don’t think that at 2 & 4 it will have any major impact.”

There has been much discussion about the consequences of dressing children the same, particularly twins, but we can also understand the convenience and practicality of buying duplicate outfits. We think that it’s all about what the children are happy with – and most will eventually grow out of wanting to look the same as their sibling!

Do you think dressing your children in matching outfits could have an impact on their individuality? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.

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  • People just love to point out how wrong others are about everything.
    My eldest two loved dressing the same when they were younger and would often select the same things when we went clothes shopping. I had no issue with it.


  • If the children don’t like this idea they will certainly let you know is my answer to this question. I had one of my girls always wearing dresses cause that was what she wanted to wear and her sister was the greatest tom-boy ever and adored wearing her brother’s hand me downs. To this day one is still a girlie girl and the other rides her motor cycle.


  • I was often dressed the same as my sister and we are sooooo different, and yes by 10/11 yrs of age I hated it, but when we were little I didn’t care…and yet I dressed my children the same or similar depending on age until they were around 6yrs old or so… I had twins, not identical but both boys and looked very much alike… I too was a bit concerned about their individuality … nooo problems… they are like chalk and cheese in their likes and dislikes etc (always have been). They, and their other two brothers closer to them in size/age who I would dress the same also, are all on their own paths… all four have very different careers and life styles. I stopped around the 6yrs old mark as that’s when complaints started popping up…
    Now one of my sons does the same with their two girls… So I definitely don’t see a problem with it…


  • All things considered – in the list of things that damage kids – this doesn’t even rate. Mum obviously has the best intentions and as she posted then she’s obviously concerned about not wanting to impact her kids negatively.

    All kids are different and parents know their own kids best. If the girls enjoy it and want to, Especially at 4 & 2, then it’s no one else’s business.


  • I don’t see a problem with it, its something they can look back on


  • If the children enjoy it, it’s not a problem.


  • My mum always dressed me and my sister the same until we could make our own choices. We are so different now but still sometimes turn up wearing the same thing.


  • It doesn’t effect for the personality and individuality.Outfit not the measure for anything.


  • As long as the girls are happy to wear the same clothes I don’t see any harm. They will soon let you know if they want to wear different things, of that I’m certain.


  • I hated that most outfits I had, my sister had the same but in a different colour. I was always dressed in blue, whilst my sister had a better and different colour version (eg. red).


  • It doesn’t matter!!


  • Wow the world is really going nuts if this is a problem for people! My friend has triplets and they’re always dressed to match. I myself have sometimes dressed to match my little girl and she loves it.


  • I have a boy and a girl so most likely they will not wear the same but sometimes by accident the whole family will end up wearing the same colours.
    I think if the child enjoy it then went not. If they don’t then that’s when I’d let them wear what they want.


  • My mother did this to my sisters and me. I am 13 months older then one and almost 6 years then the other. It was not much a problem until my sister and I close in age, were at a new school no uniform and was asked why my twin sister was a level below me. I think mum did what came natural to her as she was a twin. It was easier for her too as made our clothes. Later on it was same style just different colours. It did not matter once except for that one time. My daughters are 10 years apart so never did it with them and my older sons about 2 years apart never did as liked making different things for them.


  • Mums can dress their kids any way they like. I cant see a problem with it.


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