The mum said she always liked dressing her daughters the same and didn’t see a problem until someone questioned her decision…

A concerned mum has taken to popular parenting forum Mumsnet to ask if she is being unreasonable to dress her daughters the same. The mum-of-two says that the girls are not always dressed in matching outfits, but she often enjoys putting them in similar or the same clothes, particularly for special occasions.

Cute Or Tacky?

The mum said her daughters are equally enthusiastic about coordinating their outfits. “I have two young daughters (2&4) and I love dressing them in matching clothes,” she said. “For reference, they both love it too and get excited when they have the same on. I would stop when they don’t enjoy it of course.” The mum admits she had never considered any negative consequences of her decision until someone questioned her about how her daughters would develop their own individuality, prompting her to ask the forum if she was doing them more harm than good…


Children Are Different

Comments on the post were mixed, with some recounting their own experience of being dressed like their siblings from a young age. “I absolutely detested it when my mum dressed me and my sister the same,” wrote one forum user. “Even looking back now, the pictures annoy me.” “I figure kids are individuals and I like to reflect that, but each to their own,” wrote another. Despite some criticism, others pointed out the innocence of what the mum was doing. “I don’t see an issue so long as they do actually love it and are excited by it,” said one parent. “I also don’t think that at 2 & 4 it will have any major impact.”

There has been much discussion about the consequences of dressing children the same, particularly twins, but we can also understand the convenience and practicality of buying duplicate outfits. We think that its all about what the children are happy with – and most will eventually grow out of wanting to look the same as their sibling!

Do you think dressing your children in matching outfits could have an impact on their individuality? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.

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  • So, my Mum used to dress my sister and I in the same outfits but different colours. I hated it. It’s one thing I remember about my child. That I had to wear the same outfit as my sister. We were both very different looking and I was always picked on by my family and others for my weight, so this only highlighted how my sister looked in something compared to me. Don’t do it.


  • They’re probably not going to dress the same when they are teenagers. If they like it now, let them do it!


  • I think it’s up to the individual. When the children get older they will choose what they want to wear to show off their own individuality.


  • I’m a twin my mum used to dress us the same or we would be in the same outfit different colour but as a child we didn’t care having the same thing but when we got a bit older we choose what we wanted to wear
    I As a child being a twin liked getting the same thing as my sister I sort of felt sometimes when we got different things that one was always better than the other and felt bad if my sister got something better than me or I felt bad if I got something better than her
    I also have a niece who is 8 months younger than my daughter and they like getting the same thing and it has never been encouraged but they are both nine sometimes they like to dress the same so I really think it’s up to the parent and when the kids are older enough to choose what they want to were let them choose it like any child really


  • I hate it when children wear the same outfit. Especially when parents dress their twins the same. Matching or coordinated is fine, but not exactly the same!


  • I know a person that dresses her three boys identically and it drives me nuts, they are not triplets (I would have given her a pass for that lol) My kids hate looking the same and like to help choose their clothes when shopping


  • I wish i could dress mine the same they would love it. As long as they are both happy to be wearing the same thing let them. Some people can be so judgy.


  • I think it’s okay and cute when they’re young but once they can choose their own clothing (within reason) they should be able to wear whatever they want.


  • No problem when the kids like it themselves. Sometimes my girls like to wear a matching outfit we me, they just love it.


  • If the girls like it i dont see the issue. I wouldn’t personally but that’s personal preference


  • My mother dressed us girls alike. As my sister is 13 months younger then me, some thought us twins. My other sister was a few years younger then us. It was not so bad if the clothes were different colours but being exactly the same was annoying at times. My mother was a twin and I just put it down to the way she grew up being dressed like her sister. I have never put my lot in matching clothes due to this. I do have twins but they are fraternal so not many of their clothes matched.


  • if the girls get excited by it, I don’t see the problem. My mum used to get my sister and I the same outfits – but a different colour. Possibly it was just easier that way?? She found a cute outfit and thought – ‘great, I’ll get 2 of them so i don’t have to hunt around for something else that I like’. I can certainly understand that sentiment!


  • If the girls like it, there’s no real problem.


  • Families need to make their own decisions. Dressing your kids the same is hardly the worst of parenting crimes.


  • If the girls don’t mind it, I would go on doing that.


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