Mum shares a rant about school formals and demands they need to be banned ASAP!
Sharing on Facebook the mum warned, “RANT ALERT! Why on earth are schools still doing formal balls???
Continuing her rant she wrote, “Seriously mums, what’s up with the year 11 presentation (or debutante) ball that so many schools hold, where parents are asked to come along with their year 11s, for a formal ball / dinner.
“They eat, dance and ‘present’ the young ladies to society. Apparently, in the ‘old days’ rich famlies used to show-off their young 15-16 year old females with the hope of finding a suitable wealthy young man to marry them off.
“I have SO MANY OBJECTIONS to the whole idea that I don’t know where to start. SO out-dated, so degrading to females, so wrong, heterosexual couples only, and while at school my daughters certainly aren’t “available” to the males in society wealthy ones or not.
“And it is so expensive (the food was reportedly scant and bad at last years event, the kids have to share taxis or limos for photo’s that parents can’t go to, they have to get the dresses and formal stuff, buy their partner a present, get shoes, the list goes on.. and the tradition is to have parties after the midnight ball ends, and you have to alert the police to patrol to prevent gate crashing).
“The whole thing is just so unnecessary.”
“Plus what I’ve heard is that most parents HATE it.. but kids are geed-up by school that this is a ‘thing of their life’ when in reality it is one way to blow a LOAD of money in one fell swoop, supporting a ‘cultural thing ‘ that I don’t even agree with.”
The internet did no react kindly
To be honest I must admit I think this mum makes a great point. It can be a real divider for kids today, especially those that can’t afford the fancy dress, makeup and car. I think it should just be something they attend in full school uniform so it is more inclusive for everyone.
Other mums certainly did not take lightly to this mother’s opinion.
Kayla said, “Um since whe is it to show off available girls? I think your the outdated one. Its actually now a celebration of them completing a certain milestone at school and celebrating.”
Lana said, “What the? Nowhere does a debutante ball that I’m aware of, it’s a formal, a chance for kids to dress up and celebrate the end of their schooling and transition into adulthood. Let people enjoy things.”
Cassandra wrote, “Ok, calm down Conan. If you don’t like it, don’t do it.”
Danielle shared, “It’s just a chance for the kids to have some fun.. my stepdaughter who finished year 12 last year went to 2 formals (one for her then boyfriend in year 11 and then again her own in year 12) and she loved the both of them.”
Margaret shared, “My daughters refused to do it it’s costs a ridiculous sum and they didn’t want to be forced to ask a guy to partner with them so they just didn’t.”
Hayley shared, “My daughter did her Deb in year 11 last year. It was a beautiful night, the kids were gorgeous and they had the time of their lives. It wasn’t compulsory but there was only a handful of students who didn’t do it. And all the kids were presented, not just the girls. Agreed, it wasn’t a cheap night but I’d do it again in a heartbeat, she will remember it forever.”
Charmaine said, “It’s fun, you learn how to dance etc. I was a ballroom dancer, I’ve taught a couple of presentation balls, these days they usually present the boy as well, not just the girl! Ballroom dancers are sometimes gay, but they still dance with women. Same sex dancing competitions are rare.”
Chelsy agreed, “It’s a fun event for the kids and parents. the old meaning of it has nothing to do with what it means today in Australia anyway, its called a formal and its a celebration of milestones. ”
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