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Mum shares how she has been cut off by a friend because of something her six-year-old daughter said.

The mum shared that one day the woman’s daughter made the comment about her friend’s son, four, not having a father.

She claims it wasn’t said in a nasty way, simply as a matter of fact.

The mums overheard and her friend asked her to tell her daughter not to say anything like that again.

She apologised and passed the message onto her little girl.

But she got a message later on saying the little boy was extremely upset.

Writing on the parenting website Mumsnet she said: Dropped by a friend because of what my child said – “I got a message telling me her son was inconsolable and so was she, at what was said.  “I’ve not heard a word since from her, and I can imagine she is telling everyone how awful we are.

“I know it’s a sensitive topic for her but you can’t expect children to understand.”

Her post has since been removed.

Kids sure do have a big mouth, sometimes that off switch would be very handy. No filter at all, they don’t mean any harm though.

Do you think this is a fair reason to dump a friend? Have you experienced anything similar?

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  • Children listen and take in everything. You cant take offensive to things that childre say though. I remember my eldest caught me off guard one day when I told her we were going to visit a friend of mine. My daughter shock her head and looked disgusted and said to me “Shes a silly lady”…I was stunned and wondered where this had come from so i asked her why she said that and she responded with “She lost her baby….how can you do that?” ….she had heard as talking but in her childs mind she thought that my friend had perhaps taken her baby to the shops and put it down and lost it. I had to explain to her that was not what we meant. I was thankful that she said this when we were alone but it could have quite easily been said when we were visiting my friend.

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  • I think that the mum who was upset is going to get upset by a lot of things that other kids say, so she might not end up with too many friends if she keeps dropping them. If she’s upset, then she can be upset – as there are definitely some topics that people are more sensitive to, but at some point she needs to let it go and try to return the friendship to what it was.

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  • Think it was more the mother being upset more so than her son – children always blurt out what they think but they don’t have malice in what they say – they are merely curious. Perhaps the mother should have prepared her child for this sort of question.

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  • You don’t drop a friend over that, it is she (the dumper) who is being childish.

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  • Maybe her friend’s son had been getting bullied at school about not having a Father. I’m sure there’s got to be more to the problem than just her little girl saying it. She couldn’t have been a very good friend if she can react like this to your young girl.

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  • Wow! It might be worthwhile having an actualy conversation about what was said and the context. You can never trust or rely on what a child said until it is further discussed and understood. This goes for many situations. A shame, but maybe the friendship wasn’t that strong or was only for a season or a reason.

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  • Wow get over it! She can’t have been too good a friend to do that. People really need to have thicker skin. Yes, it can be embarrassing, but I go to church by myself every week. I have had people ask the awkward question of where my husband is, but you just answer matter of fact and you move on. If you look people in the eye you won’t be a target.
    Secondly, kids are curious. The girl wasn’t being mean she was just stating an observation.

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  • Agree with others, some people are way too sensitive these days and also feel the need to post every single detail of their life on social media as well. The child wasn’t being nasty and I think the woman needs to harden up as it was pretty innocent. Some just can’t handle the truth.

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  • Gee, kids have said some horrible Insensitive things to me. I’ve always treated it as unintentional, to be either ignored or spark a gentle explanation.


    • Exactly – discuss and teach as that is how children learn.

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  • Possibly a fragile friendshis as most friendships when things like this occur can be discussed and resolved.

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  • Kids can say things indeed without considering what feelings this can cause by the other.
    Obviously the thing the girl said is a painful and possibly unresolved issue by this mom and her son. Our thoughts are not always rational when painful situations are brought up and this mom and son might simple have not been able to deal with it and therefore chose to protect themselves in their vulnerability. It might not mean that she dumps this friend, but just temporary keeps some distance.
    Yes, I’ve seen things like this happening between friends of mine and both parties were extremely upset.

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  • Kids really don’t know the consequences of what they say and are naturally curious. Hopefully they all find a way to move past it.

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  • It can’t have been much of a friendship in the first place. Too many people are too easily offended these days. What happened to talking things out and forgive and forget?

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  • This is not a good enough reason to drop a friend. How sad :(

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  • It looks like the reaction was a little extreme! It was just a little girl. There was surely no malice in what she said.

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