Mum revealed she had a secret miscarriage, because people fear it’s contagious….

Giovanna Fletcher, 32, is a novelist and TV presenter. She has two sons Buzz, three and 12-month-old Buddy, with husband Tom Fletcher, 31.

Speaking at BUILD Series London, she said: ‘When it comes to miscarriage I think we’re all too scared to say something. I felt like I could never say anything to friends because people feel like it’s contagious’.

‘It’s a really rubbish thing that happens and it happens to so many people. All you really want in that moment is a hug.

‘You feel like your body has failed you and that’s your first experience as a mother.

‘I fell pregnant very quickly and I had this thing in my head that it was just too easy. After being worried for so long that it wouldn’t be easy it just happened.

‘And then I miscarried not long after that and I think part of me felt that would happen, because I felt that it was too easy.

‘Because I felt that I hadn’t earned it. If that didn’t happen I wouldn’t have Buzz and Buzz will forever be my silver lining.’

She explained: ‘I just had this feeling that [the human body] is amazing actually. After having a miscarriage, when I felt like it had completely failed me that the body can do this.

‘We scrutinise it and we put it down all the time. Who actually cares? We all need to just get rid of that. That’s not what our bodies are actually there for.

‘People really bash online, they think it’s full of trolls and it’s just not. My experience of the internet is that it’s actually amazing. It’s a wonderful community of supportive people.’

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  • it is a personal thing and really it depends on how you want to get through it all. some people feel better when they reach out to others.


  • Yes I can kinda relate.
    After 2 miscarriages I didn’t share my 3rd miscarriages and when I then fell pregnant I didn’t share it until I was 25 weeks along or so….just out of fear something might go wrong


  • I think it up to each individual to manage their loss, and who shares it, themselves.


  • Some don’t announce that they are pregnant until they have had their 12 week scan. A good % of miscarriages seem to happen in that time frame. Then you only tell people you know will be understanding and supportive.
    You don’t want to hear: there must have been something not right with it…it wasn’t meant to be…..you can always try again…..get over it…….etc


  • Sometimes people don’t talk about it till they’re strong enough to cope with other people’s reactions.


  • Sorry to hear about the miscarriage, people’s reactions can vary as to what they think. I have been there and never mentioned my last miscarriage until years later as some think it is nothing . Not like the child has taken a breath, you still go through all the feelings. The biggest question I had was why, what did I do wrong.


  • So sorry to hear of her loss,wishing her all the best in the future.


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