Mum shares her tips to help parents going through a tough time.
Australian travel blogger, Jessica Stein, gave birth to her baby girl, Rumi, after a complicated pregnancy.
Six months after her birth their chronically ill little girl is still in and out of hospital undergoing urgent surgeries – the latest for intestinal malrotation.
Ms Stein took to her Instagram account on Sunday to address everything that has been happening and share with her followers what to do if they know of someone going through a tough time, shared Daily Mail.
‘Every day is a fight, but yesterday was the worst of our lives. Ru had urgent surgery for her intestinal malrotation a few days ago,’ the doting mother wrote.
‘There are so many parts of life that we won’t ever be able to understand unless we experience them ourselves, but we can try. I never knew the amount of love, hope, isolation, pain and suffering possible until caring and fighting for a chronically ill bub every day.’
Ms Stein said that for anyone out there going through a tough time but ‘doesn’t know what to do or say’ and ‘thinks it is best to stay away until tough times pass’ – ‘please don’t’.
‘If you ask “what can I do” and they don’t give clear direction, do what you can anyway,’ she continued.
‘Leave groceries on their doorstep. Freeze meals. Bring coffee. Turn up for a hug then leave. Watch their kids while they take a shower or a nap.
Please don’t stop texting even if they don’t reply, they probably don’t have words to explain it.
‘Ask if they need help paying rent, bills or with Centrelink forms as you know they haven’t been able to work in a year.’
Ms Stein suggested asking whether they need help getting to the hospital or asking if they need to talk or ‘sit together in silence.
‘Don’t tell them everything will be okay if they “just think positive sunshine and rainbows”. Please don’t assume we are on the same journey as other new parents. Please don’t ask “what’s wrong with her” just to know, and do nothing,’
Ms Stein said. ‘Please don’t assume anyone has enough support around them as this is not always the case, and can be a difficult thing to admit. I have been begging for help and understanding from Doctors, family and friends this past year and try to focus on those who have remained and not feel the hurt of who is not here.
‘At the end of all the s**t days these things go out the window. Because it’s not about me and Pat, it’s our beautiful girl that doesn’t deserve any of this.’
Since sharing her story the popular blogger has been inundated with messages of support.
Sending Jessica and little Rumi lots of love and strength.
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