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Susan Sarandon’s daughter, Eva Amurri Martino, shared the horror of discovering her five-week-old baby being dropped on his head by a night nurse, resulting in a fractured skull and bleeding on the brain.

On her blog, www.happilyevaafter.com, Eva shares the story of every parent’s worst fear and how she has been battling with anxiety and panic attacks since it happened.

Eva writes, “Today is a new year. A new start. Fresh beginnings. I am inspired in the name of that optimism to share something with my readership today: I’m not doing well. In fact, I’m really struggling. I’ve been extremely overwhelmed recently, in a lot of different ways. I think it’s time to share that with all of you in the hopes that speaking my truth will allow me to move forward– and also in the hopes that anybody else who is trying to hold it all together with similarly emotional results will know it’s ok to let go– to accept help, forgive themselves, and to move towards a solution.

She confesses, “So here it is, I’m in an emotionally bad place, for reasons I will explain. I’m depleted and anxious, and I haven’t been giving my anxiety and feelings the attention they deserve for a little while now. I’ve been hoping that powering through would get me to the other side, but I’ve finally realized that feelings don’t work like that.”

“A couple of days after Thanksgiving, our Night Nurse fell asleep while holding Major and dropped him, and he cracked his head on the hardwood floor. Kyle and I were sleeping at the time and were awoken by the sound of his head hitting the floor, and then hysterical piercing screams. He suffered a fractured skull and bleeding on his brain, and was transported by ambulance to Yale Medical Centre where I spent two harrowing days with him to receive emergency care and further testing. To say these were the most traumatic and anxious two days of my life is an understatement.”

“But here’s the good part: by the grace of all of his many angels, and every God one cares to pray to, MAJOR IS FINE. Completely fine. Though he had the fracture, some skull displacement, and bleeding, the skull did not touch his brain and the bleeding was localized. Further MRI’s showed no brain damage and we were discharged by experts in paediatrics and neurology with as excellent of a prognosis as we could have ever hoped for. We were absolutely, divinely lucky that day. He had no other broken bones, and no spinal effects whatsoever. He has been healing well, hitting milestones, cooing, smiling, and generally showing us that he is and will be ok as he grows and develops.”

“Obviously, the (extremely upset and remorseful) nurse is no longer working for our family, though we forgive her. And even though I finally made peace with the fact that this freak accident could not have been avoided by me, it has continued to effect me to my core and in all aspects of my daily life.

It’s nearly impossible for me to trust anyone but myself to take care of Major now. We definitely don’t have night time help anymore, but it has only been in the past week or so that I have felt comfortable with somebody coming during the day to help me with him so that I can complete normal tasks and work responsibilities.”

“Hearing Major cry hard immediately triggers my memories of the moments after the accident and instigates an immediate panic attack– my heart races and tears spring to my eyes. Sometimes I get dizzy spells. I feel nauseous and overwhelmed and even small discomforts he has make me anxious. My appetite has decreased to nothing, I have a hard time getting to sleep after night time feedings, and my milk supply goes up and down depending on the stresses of the day. Any time we are near an edge or a ledge, I fear that he will fall, somehow, and be hurt again.

Just last week, we were on the second floor of a Starbucks, and I sat there panicked and frozen as I imagined Major falling from my arms over the edge of the banister and on to the floor below. My brain played back the sound of his screams that night. I had to close my eyes and clench my teeth as the waves of nausea eventually subsided. To cope through all of this the past month, I had been trying to breathe, to talk myself down, to remind myself that my son is alright, that we are all alright.”

“My instinct tells me that I have some form of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, possibly linked to some form of Postpartum Depression.”

“I’m not a doctor and I haven’t been diagnosed by anyone, so I don’t know for sure. Even typing those words scares me and makes me realize that there may be a longer road ahead to feel better than I would hope for. But I know that the way I’m feeling, though understandable and human, is not normal.”

Eva pledges, “To anybody else who is suffering from similar feelings or challenges, no matter the cause– I am with you in this. Let’s get better. It’s time.”

We wish her all the best. Such a terrifying experience for them all.

Read her full blog post here.

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  • Simple fix – look after your kid yourself instead of having a “night nurse”. Seriously, what is wrong with these women who want kids but not the responsibility of looking after them?
    I’m glad the child is okay but seriously, if you want your kid to spend all of its time with nannies and nurses don’t have kids. It’s unfair to them.

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  • What a horrific traumatic experience. Why wasn’t he put in his cot or bassinet when he was sound asleep before the night nurse went to sleep. I know it is nice to cuddle them but if you are tired it is safer to put them in their cot once asleep. It’s not as though you are likely to fall asleep watching TV at that hour of the night if you aren’t one of the baby’s parents.

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  • Im pleased to her that Major is ok. Frightening experience.

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  • That is awful! I was thinking he was dropped because they can be slippery little suckers. But to drop him because she fell asleep while holding him is so bad

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  • I am so glad to hear Major is alright! What a traumatic experience for everyone involved.

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  • Its the most horrifying experience… My little one fell down from the cot when he was 6 months and i was not able to sleep for nights, so can imagine the nightmare eva went through..

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  • What a scary experience !! Thank God Major is ok !
    I never had the luxury of having a night nurse or daytime help, but I recognize the desire to keep the care of my babies in my own hands.

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  • how scary, every parent’s worst nightmare. Glad bubs is going to be fine

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  • Gosh that is terrible. The night nurse must feel horrible.

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  • Luckily the little boy is fine. What a terrible experience. I can’t even imagine how terrible those two days must have been for them. :-(

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  • Good to hear everything is fine,thank god!

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  • Every mothers worst nightmare ????

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