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Adele aka The Real Mumma, recently welcome her second child, a baby girl and streamed updates on Facebook as she experienced different stages of labour. Now Adele is home with baby Chloe she is sharing the real home truths about life with a newborn.

Adele has been sharing snippets of her post baby experience admitting, “The ‘baby blues’ are a funny thing to go through and not everyone notices it so much.”

Adele shared, “I had it last time for quite a few days and for first time mums, it’s something to keep your eye on and you may not be prepared for.

It’s not something you want to linger or intensify or be the start of PND that so many new mums go through. But most of the time, it’s just a hormonal shift that makes you a bit spooky.”

“I cried today when someone opened a good box on Deal Or No Deal. I cried because I think Chloe is beautiful. And again, when I ran out of eucalyptus lollies and couldn’t get to Woolies. Paul would console me and then we would end up in fits of laughter about it being so ridiculous. ”

The mum guilt is the big killer though! 

Adele mentioned that for her this time the hormones have brought up huge emotions about her first born son, Harvey. She said that’s the one emotion she just can’t laugh off.

“I can’t stop worrying about him and almost ‘mourning’ our time together. It sounds silly but I feel sad for him and what the next few months will be like for him. I don’t want him to feel inferior in any way and I want him to feel loved even though there are two to love now. “

“He will see us tired and moody and I am conscious he will hear ‘no, be quiet, not now’ etc from us a lot in the coming months. I just have to ensure I have the Harvey and Mum time every day and continue to make him feel special. I’ll involve him and he will be my amazing little helper. ”

Although I’m very confident in the way I ‘parent’ now, it really is all new again. I’m no longer a first time mum. I have kids….Kids! And I am aware Chloe will be different to Harvey too. ”


Related story – Mum shares labour updates LIVE to Facebook


On day 6 Adele admits it has been a whirlwind.

“One minute I’m feeling good and giving Paul high fives, the next everything is goes to shit and I’m a teary mess. In all honesty, yesterday I cried a lot.”

“The first night was a comedy of events and I got about 2 hours sleep. If Chloe wasn’t cluster feeding, Harvey was getting out of bed in tears. Would you believe that at 3am he was pulling blankets out of his draw and yelling ‘for the baby’? At one point I think we all were crying. Paul was on the inside I’m sure.”

Adele adds, “I’m finding that being a mother to a newborn is easier this time. But being a mum to multiple kids all of a sudden is a whole new ball game!”

One day at a time mumma. You got this!

What was the best advice you received once you became a mum for the second time?

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This post originally appeared on Adele Barbaro – The Real Mumma Facebook page.

  • yeah when your milk first comes in you can get a bit overwhelmed as all these hormones are running around. you go from being pregnant to breastfeeding and sleepless and the adrenaline and anxiety of giving birth starts to wear off. Your routine is changing and it is a lot to cope with, hopefully you will have a great support system to help you deal

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  • One day ata time, don’t overload your schedule

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  • I remember somewhere around day 3-5 getting very emotianal for no reason at all. Other mums had told me that this would happen, but wasn’t prepared for how suddenly it would occur, given that the first couple of days were just regular days.

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  • Sleep when your bub is sleeping.

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  • if anyone ask you if you need a hand with anything, take it, don’t say no. in return you will give the favour back once your settled in and doing an excellent job of being a mum.
    sleep as much as you can and love your children as much as you can. they grow up too fast!
    There is no way you would love less or more on 1 child, you will love them both the same. make sure you treat them equally in anything and it doesn’t matter if its a boy or a girl. treat them the same! Congratulations on your lil bundle girl

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  • oh I love how honest and real Adele is – it is such a good thing for new mums to learn about and I think her frank and honest and real approach should be commended :) I would highly recommend her to anyone to gain some insight into having kids! – I did think her labour vids were pretty good!

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  • True, but I think that provided that you love your kids and try hard to treat them equally – there’s not much else you can do. Demonstrating love in the family is so important. It;s also important to love yourself and ask for help when needed.

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  • My advice get sleep whenever and wherever you can. :) Sleep deprivation is so tough on the body and mind.

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  • I think I must have been one of the lucky ones. I’d never heard of the baby blues or PND and never suffered. I’ve seen others go through it though and felt bad because I can’t help them and give them any advice.

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  • She’s being pretty realistic about the way it’s different with number two.

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  • Must admit I never had the baby blues, maybe I didn’t have enough time. But one thing is for sure, no two babies are the same. First 1 was a textbook baby, everything came as it was supposed to happen. No 2 almost died in my arms one day after a horrific first 4 months, No 3 almost died during childbirth and No 4 was in a hurry and still is now. Each child was very different in the way the behaved as littlies and are still so different now. But all are equally loved. Another 3 never made it at all.

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  • Second time around came with a set of twins, born prematurely with feeding issues, serious illness (nearly lost one of them) and a bad case of Baby Blues. Was so stressful, especially when they were in hospital and I felt so helpless. Then at home they would sleep on different schedules, and one fed more than the other, tried to sync their times and after about 7 months, it finally kicked in, they were on the same schedule. All the while my little 2yo daughter was a little trooper trying to be a big girl and good helper.


    • ps.Can you believe I was still desperate for a fourth child and went on to have another little blessing

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  • I was a mess and it nearly destroyed my little family. After number 2 I slipped into PND. Losing yet another didn’t help but my dad gave me a hug and even though he didn’t know it brought me out. Scary.

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  • Makes me a bit sad that I’ve only got one.

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  • A lovely, honest read. I remember being told about the Baby Blues occurring on Day 3 and then forgetting about it until I found myself crying all day at anything. It is a real thing! Just go with it, accept it and they’ll be gone before you know it.

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