A furious mum has slammed parents for leaving their six-year-old children unattended at her child’s birthday party.

The mum-of-three hosted the party with 15 kids as guests and was shocked when two parents dropped their children off without checking first, shares The Sun.

She explained her experience on parenting forum Mumsnet to ask if this behaviour at children’s parties is normal and stated that the parents could have been leaving their children with anyone, even paedophiles.

She wrote: “We had our child’s 6th birthday party and two of the parents just dropped their children off and came back a few hours later to pick them up.

“It may not have been so bad if I had met the people and their child before but I didn’t even have a clue who their kids were and all of a sudden I have been given the responsibility of not only hosting a party for 15 kids, looking after my own 3 children, aged 6, 2 and 6 months but now another two people’s children.


She said ‘they could be leaving them with paedophiles or they could be abducted’

“To top it off one of the kids was really badly behaved and upset the other kids and then also when the parents collected their children they left without saying goodbye and didn’t even thank me for the party or looking after their children.

“I just don’t get why someone would leave their kids with someone they’ve never met, they could be leaving them with paedophiles or they could be abducted by someone else If I wasn’t paying attention to them or get lost and hurt and I’d be the one held responsible for it…

“Am I being unreasonable to think that 6 is too young to leave your child at a party with someone you’ve never met before?”

Responses varied

There was a mixed response from other Mumsnet users, some saying that once children are at school age they should be left at parties, but must ask the permission of the host first.

Mortifiedmama wrote: “Personally I’d just double check before RSVP’ing but I’d expect at 6 for others to leave their kids with me if they wanted.”

Celtiethree wrote: “Fairly typical here to leave 6 year olds. More unusual for parents to stay. Normally parents would ask some friends or other family members to stay to keep an eye on the group.”

Others agreed with the original poster though, saying it’s rude and irresponsible.

Mumshappy wrote: “One of my DDs bdays is in Sep oldest in class. Just started reception and some children were just dumped.

“Cheeky, irresponsible and uncaring. I’ve noticed a common denominator over the years. They all brats. The parents cant wait to get rid of them.”

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  • This is how I always did it, and parents did for parties at mine. I did use to check in with the parents before I left though, just in case, they were always fine with me going


  • I think dropping kids off for a birthday party is fine given that you are considerate and ask the party host prior to, and then on the day you take your kids in and either say hi to the host or introduce yourself and your children, leave a contact number if the host needs you urgently and be back prior to the end of the party to collect your child. Ultimately it is up to the host as it is their house and they are running the party. Sometimes it feels awkward if your the only parent that stays especially if you don’t know the host parent at all!


  • I suppose it has to be made clear on the invite whether parents are expected to stay or not


  • This usually happened all the time in the olden days, but not in these modern times. Then we always knew all the parents and all the children.


  • I am the staying and helping type!


  • I can remember going to a couple of kids’ birthday parties. I would have been about 10 y.o. My parents knew the birthday girl’s parents well. We lived nearby so I walked to the party. It was still bright daylight when the party finished so I walked home again. We knew the neighbours between the 2 houses. I don’t remember ever having a kids’ party. There was enough kids in relatives. Some parties especially if the children are young they make sure they cater for the parents too, even if it’s just chips & salad for lunch. I don’t know who started the goodie bag stunt. At least the last one my nephew was given had a couple of cheap toys in it, not just heaps of lollies.


  • People should always choose kindness over judgement.


  • I think it’s something that needs to b agreed to by both parties first. I remember it being normal for us to be dropped off at bday parties but things were a lot different in those days, we were much better behaved and parties were structured


  • I’d want to know the parents before I left a younger child with them. Not as much for older kids.


  • This is fairly standard behaviour, especially as most parties simply don’t have the room for the adults. I’ve made a point of meeting all my daughter’s friends parents so I not only know who’s who but what kind of people they are. Most parents will state on invites at our school that parents are welcome or required to attend.


  • Especially when my older 2 were younger, I was often chatting at school with the mums and you know with whom you leave your kid when they were invited at parties. I would always stuck around and ask if they need help.
    Since we added two permanent foster children, live looks a bit different. The youngest has Down syndrome and the 8yr old has an impulse control disorder/kleptomania in the context of an attachment disorder.
    I don’t feel for leaving my 8yr old alone at a party because she may steal.
    I don’t feel for leaving my 5yr old alone at a party because she has a delay, is non verbal and people may not understand her.


  • I was lucky with my older kids as I knew all of the parents, we all had cuppas together at least once a week and some of us would walk to kinder/school together.


  • I stick around as I know my children would be nervous without me but I know a few parents who are comfortable leaving their child at that age and having people leave their children with them. Last year I am sure I read an article about how one mum didn’t want the mums to stay. She didn’t want to have to entertain them as well. I guess the best thing to do is ask.


  • I had a mum leave her child at a party I hosted when my daughter turned 5 which I thought was a bit young. It was hard as the party was at a play centre and I didn’t know the child. But I have since had parties at my own house and feel it’s easier to monitor the kids when the parents leave.


  • At that age, I would be introducing myself and sticking around


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