May 13, 2021


Should I let my 10-year old get his ears pinned back due to bullying?

Sharing on #momanswers,  the concerned mum wrote, “YIKES! My ten-year old son has asked if he can get his ears pinned back.

“His ears have always been a bit sticky-outy but we’ve never made a big deal about this. But I think he’s getting teased at school and it’s really bothering him.

“He just seems so young to have any kind of cosmetic surgery.

“I am absolutely torn. What should I do? Would you let him do it? Anyone else gone through this procedure?”

Mums share their opinions

Mums definitely had no hesitation in saying YES get it fixed now!

Helen shared, “My hubby had this done when he was very young, 10-12 years old (not 100% sure). He never regretted it and always said it was best thing he did.”

Jan shared, “Our sons were done when he was about 7. Unfortunately due to having to wear compulsory school hats through primary school one ear wasn’t totally successful. However in saying that they still looked better, he didn’t get teased and he was happy. Consult a pediatrician.”

Do Your Homework

Lou shared, “I had my sons ears done when he was 5 yrs , we had a wonderful ENT surgeon. My son had absolutely no pain at all after surgery he didn’t have any pain medication,even the doctor said this was unusual I think he has a high pain threshold . I’m glad I had it done , surgery was done in the winter and he had to wear his bandages for several weeks , he just wore a beanie to school. I do not regret having this procedure . All I can say is do your homework on surgeons as I said I was fortunate enough to have a fantastic doctor. Go with your gut feeling.”

Kirsty said, “I would have no hesitation if it were my son! Go for it.”

Leanne agreed, “Yes no questions, if he is on board and wants it too. I am sure it will do wonders for his self esteem.”

Bat Ears No More

Another mum shared: “I had “bat ears” as a child, and was bullied on a daily basis. I was 6-7 years old when I had my ears pinned back and so grateful to my mum for giving me that choice. I am now facing the realisation that my son has “bat ears” and may one day ask me for this option. If that’s what the child needs, as long as they understand what it’s being done for (self confidence instead of yielding to bullies), I do not see a problem with it. Give them a chance to be the best they wanna be.”

Do It!

Others also agreed,

“Most definitely, kids are cruel and it will make a HUGE DIFFERENCE!!!”

“Would you get braces if he had buck teeth? To me there is no difference!”

“Definitely yes! He will feel better about himself!”

“Let him get it done.”

“Do it!!”

What Does Pinning Back The Ears Involved

Pinning back the ears, also called Otoplasty, or cosmetic ear surgery — is a procedure to change the shape, position or size of the ears.

This procedure can be done as soon as ears have reached their full size which is usually after 5 years old.

During an otoplasty, an incision is usually made on the back of the ear and the ear cartilage is exposed. The cartilage is then cut to allow the ear to sit closer to the side of the head. The cut is then closed with stitches. The scar behind the ear is small and inconspicuous. Alternatively, some doctors perform non-surgical otoplasties, where permanent stitches are added behind the ear to adjust its position. It’s best to speak to your doctor to find out which procedure is best for you.

What would you do if you were in this situation? Tell us in the comments below.

  • If it had been an issue for my boys I would certainly have agreed for them to get it done. Kids get bullied enough at school and if there’s something that can be done to avoid it then I’d certainly go ahead. I was bullied at school for my height when I was 10 because I was as tall as the teachers. I was lucky to have quite a few friends who would help me to laugh it off, not like the kids have to put up with these days. So yes, I’d do anything for my kids to stop the bullies from picking on them.


  • I had big ears as a child and I hated it. Kids were laughing at me and being a girl it was hard. I was 9 when I got them fixed and definitely don’t regret it at all. The younger the better! It’s not too painful and I remember seeing my face for the first time after the surgery. I looked like a different person in a good way. If I had a child with big ears and was sad about that and wanted surgery I would definitely support it.


  • Very tough decision, but if it’s what he really wants, maybe put a time to think about it then if he still wants it done then I’d do it


  • If it’s something your boy wants and you can afford it then do it! My mum had it done when she was young. My brother inherited her ears and used to get teased for it. He never got his done and decided to embrace them. He calls them his wing nuts. I don’t know how he feels about them now


  • Have a good talk to him about why. I know a girl who had hers done


  • It’s always hard to know what you’d do in the same position but if it doesn’t have any serious risks or complications and will make them happier I think it’s a good choice.


  • I would let him do it. It is obviously affecting him.


  • I would let him particularly if he is uncomfortable and its bothering him and the bullying is getting out of hand.


  • My sister had it done for my nephew. She really mulled over it but saw how the bullying and comments were effecting him. He will agree it’s the best thing that has happened to him.


  • It’s sad that we need to change how we look to suit others.

    • Yes, that is sad. There is a part that may want to suit others, but there’s always also that part that we do for ourselves.


  • I think at age 10 they can have a big say, I would certainly listen to what he says. A chat with the surgeon can help.
    My BIL had floppy ears and it was his mum who really wanted them to get them pinned back, whilst he himself didn’t want…which caused damage in their relationship.


  • I would take my child to a surgeon and go through everything with them. The teasing will only get worse in high school. It’s much cheaper and easier when they are young.

    I recently went for a consult and the Medicare cut off is 18.


  • I would wait till he is a bit older. Why give into bullies?


  • I’d try and find out the root of the problem and see if it is teasing or whether he truly does want them pinned back. The I’d take him to a GP for a consult and get a referral onto a specialist for it.


  • I would do my research and honestly I would probably go ahead with it. If it was something like braces no one would bat an eyelid, this is the same


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