Mum upset after a teacher removed her daughter’s neat and tidy hair braids and left her with a messy ponytail.
Turning to the internet to ask if she was being unreasonable for thinking it was wrong the mum shared her disappointment on UK forum Mumsnet.
“I like to think I’m quite a ‘progressive’ parent and I like my children to express themselves how they feel most comfortable, they tend to pick and wear what they want over the weekends and I do let them occasionally change their hair colours with semi permanent safe dyes.
“I agree with school uniform but my daughters school doesn’t even allow hair bows, she went in with a few braids and bows in the other day and came home with a messy ponytail and told me the teacher had taken them out.
“Teacher explained it’s against school rules to have more than one bow in their hair. Am I being unreasonabel to think rules like no nail varnish, no hair accessories and no hair dye is just ridiculous rules?
“How is this going to effect their learning? She is only 6 and I really don’t understand the reasoning.
“Surely if it’s a bullying thing then this is down to parenting your child to accept that everyone is different, I can’t see how it’s a health and safety issue like piercings would be, I do agree to remove earrings on PE days as I can understand that one, but the others seem strange to me. Would love to know others feelings and opinions on this.”
The mum clarified in a follow up comment that her daughter was just wearing normal plaits in her hair.
Her post attracted over 500 comments with many parents telling the mum it is important for kids to learn to follow the rules no matter how silly you think they are.
“Children need to learn that there are rules and dress code, it stands them in good stead for working later.”
– “Your attitude to school rules for a 6 year old means that by the time she’s 14 teachers will be rolling their eyes and hiding from you.”
– “The world has rules. They’ll differ location to location. Part of growing up is developing the maturity to understand that places have rules and sometimes you might not like them, are ambivalent to them but you’ve still got to suck it up. I find parents taking the view ‘but how does this not uniform thing affect learning’ to sound like a teenager who feels hard done to. ”
– “It’s easy to sit there and say “I can’t see why…” but actually, the staff can. If it didn’t cause issues, they wouldn’t think they needed a rule, because rules take time and effort and conflict to enforce.”
“Rather than blame the school you should have apologised to your DD for not remembering to read the rules and forcing her to lose her pretty bows. This is your fault OP. You are making yourself sound as if your child’s education isn’t important to you.”
-“Isn’t one of the main reasons to follow the schools rules and respect their policies. Being a good role model to your children and doing as the school ask?”
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