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Mum posted a photo feeding her 13-month-old daughter, Aoife, with a bottle and the crowd went wild!

Rennie’s bottle-feeding photo soon went viral with support flooding in for the outspoken mum.

The mum explains she’s using her powerful Instagram post to fight against the mummy guilt that often accompanies mothers’ breastfeeding (or not) decisions.

She wrote –
“I still feel guilty every day that I’m not breastfeeding Aoife anymore. Because mum guilt is a HUGE BITCH. I had my reasons for stopping.

So many reasons (she took hours to B’feed, it wasn’t fair on Harry, so many latching probs meant too much air then too much wind and reflux, ohh and my PND and anxiety…).

At 4 months we called it quits and it was such a painful decision. Life definitely got easier, we were all a lot happier. But I still, 8 months on, think I gave up too easily. I didn’t, I know that, but I still can’t help being really hard on myself…

Add to that the stare I got from a woman today at the park when I pulled out Aoife’s bottle… Jesus, it was SO judgey. The thing is, FED is best. Aoife was (and still is) more satisfied on the bottle. It doesn’t matter how we feed our babies, as long as it’s safe and they’re nourished and happy.

Never doubt your choices, you have to do what’s right for you and your whole family – whether that be breastfeeding until they’re toddlers or never being able to even start. And tell mum guilt to just F OFF”

”There’s too much judgement out there about the different choices a mum can make,” she said. “As long as it’s safe for the baby, why should we judge another mum for however she chooses to ‘mum’?”

Rennie added that she’s faced a lot of judgment over her nearly three years of motherhood. When she decided to increase her son’s daycare hours when her second child arrived, one mum told her online, “Why have another baby if you can’t even take care of the one you have already?”

“Daycare or not, breastfeeding or not, it’s all the same ― we make the right choices for us and our family, and it’s no one’s business but our own,” the mum said.

Rennie told HuffPost her wish is simple: to see mums stop judging other mums.

“I know it’s partly inherent, but if you have an opinion and it’s negative, just keep it to yourself,” she said. “You don’t need to criticize anyone publicly, or stare disapprovingly. We’re all doing the best we can, and no one is perfect.”

AGREED! Good on you mum! Well said.

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  • that story made my day today :) its nice to have a good news story sometimes

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  • Yep, everybody does parenting differently and that’s ok.

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  • At least the baby is getting lots of cuddles like he would when you were breast feeding.

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  • There are many ways to feed a baby, breast, bottle, nasal gastric tube, g-tube – the important thing is that baby gets fed!! You have to do what is best for your family Andy don’t worry about what others say,

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  • Why would you breastfeed a baby who isn’t latching on properly and gulping in air, resulting in severe reflux, screaming with pain (yes I mean screaming) and gulping in more air and the baby is very difficult to burp. You can end up with a baby who only takes short feeds about and hour apart and has screamed part of that time. You get no sleep, baby gets very little sleep and the same thing applies to the rest of your family. Desperate decision you take your baby to a hospital for overnight observation when your baby starts to go blue and are given a prescription for special medication for the reflux. You are so excited when your baby sleeps 3 hours straight you feel like having a party to celebrate.

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  • Good on her! She is doing the best she can!

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  • For a lot of people it’s not an easy decision to make to bottle feed and I love that this is a positive spin on it.

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  • everyone is so quick to judge and criticize if you don’t breast feed your babies – sometimes it just does not work out my eldest wouldn’t latch on no matter how many nurses, and other helpful hands tried to get her to latch on she just didn’t. She was bottle fed expressed milk for as long as I could and then formula fed. My second latched on beautifully and would only be breastfeed – she refused to take a bottle at all be it expressed breast milk or formula.

    I wholeheartedly applaud you for speaking out this is how so many mums feel and we want to scream it at everyone who says something negative or looks at us a certain way – well done for sticking to your guns and saying it how it is -

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  • I could only breastfeed for five days, despite a whole team of nurses helping me day and night. It was on their recommendation that I went to formula. My guilt lasted an hour or two and then I got on with bottle feeding my baby. I never felt judged, nor guilty because I had done all I could and my baby needed nourishment.

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  • a baby needs a full belly, clean bum and lots of cuddles. How the belly gets full is no one else’s business, I am sure if we wanted to be that way we could go and pick on the bullies as well, pretty sure there are things they are not perfect with

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  • Not sure what the fuss is about. Keeping up with the crowds I guess

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  • I love that picture. And the little girl looks so happy!! :-)

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  • Its your choice whatever is best for you and your child, your child is happy and healthy you are doing the right thing!

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