Personally we pay for any damage brought on to our child(ren).

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 12 May 2024 , 7:38 am

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  Although I agree you can’t keep your child locked up all the time, but when they have special needs you will have to provide supervision (speaking from experience). With an ADHD/ASD diagnosis you most likely have NDIS funding and funding for support workers and otherwise you should apply for it.

Good on her to inform others about the issue.

As it’s a carpark in front on an apartment building, the note will likely do very little.
Another car will likely park there instead.
It’s not really much of a solution

I can see both sides of this problem and the answer is not so easy to see. ADHD children can be extremely violent and it isn’t possible to keep them locked up all the time. I do think she meant the note purely as a warning to the car owners, which personally I would like to know if I were the car owner. Fault can be laid to both sides – and why would anyone put this up on social media? That just adds fuel to the fire.

I feel for this mum. It’s super hard to watch your kids 24/7 especially as they get older and smarter but unfortunately a note ( however good the intentions) wont cut it legally if damage is done to someone’s property or worse still if someone gets hurt.

Considerate to right the note yes, but still needs to take responsibility if anything happened. Find a different way to control your child. What if they hit a person?

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  • • Mumof4 replied
    • 30 Sep 2022 , 10:50 pm

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  *write*

Oh dear, what a mine field. Glad I’m not a neighbour or a parent

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  • • mom111059 replied
    • 30 Sep 2022 , 4:24 pm

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  Yes, we are lucky. Wouldn’t want to walk in her shoes.

I used to be a judgey parent that would always think ‘that wouldn’t be me’, until one day it was me that had a challenging child. People who don’t have kids with behavioural issues seem to sit on their pedestal’s, judging everyone else, but we should all try to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes. Yes the mother in this situation could in theory ‘do more’, but some days, you can’t do more. It may have taken everything in you just to get through the morning with a challenging child and there is nothing left. So I feel her pain, there is no right or wrong, she just needs understanding.

Despite the mother’s good intentions, I think she’s ultimately responsible for supervising her son and any damage he does.

It’s a difficult one , Great that she is making people aware but at the same time its not really there problem and her way of communicating doesn’t really garner a sympathy response from me.

Oh poor mum.

Poor Mum. She is trying to do the right thing by the person who is parking their car in a place it might be damaged. I hope they understand she has written this note out of need and kindness.

Good on them for being honest, but this seems like a way for them to attempt to remove responsibility for his actions. They definitely need to look into some sort of behaviour support for their child.

I do sympathise with this Mum but asking people not to park there isn’t solving the problem. I do hope that she is getting professional help to assist her with her son so they can all have a wonderful life together.

I think the mum’s intentions are good, however issuing a warning would not diminish her or her child’s responsibility for any damage caused.

I have 2 kids with serious disabilities and disorders and understand the stress this mum goes through. However I would do everything to prevent this behaviour (like putting locks on the sliding doors, only have my child going outside or on the balcony under 1on1 supervision) or own up for it by making things right and pay for repair of damages done by my child and have my child writing or tracing a sorry letter. Of course this behaviour needs professional support and I hope this mum is able to engage with the right services

Dont judge the mom coz not everyone knows what is happening inside their home. She maybe already burned out or stressed out with the kids and she has no support.

okay so perhaps she feels like she has no other option which makes me sad, but this kind of behaviour for an adult really does astound me.

I feel for them mum, clearly she is having a rough time. I guess she is trying and struggling. We all have days were we are our wits end and maybe she wrote that note at one of those days. Lets hope that the family is getting further assistance to help sort out the struggles.

I feel sorry for the mum as obviously she is going through a rough time with her son. I hope things get sorted for her and him so it’s not an ongoing issue