Navigating divorce and custody battles can be a challenge even when everyone gets along, but what happens when the new fiance oversteps the boundaries?

A recently divorced new mum found out she was pregnant after she separated from her partner. She shared on reddit that she got divorced from her ex-husband Ben at the beginning of last year, finding out they were expecting not long after. The 28-year-old shared, “I decided to keep the baby and in November of last year my son Christopher was born.”

The custody arrangement means that baby Christopher is with his mum from Sunday through to Friday, and spends Saturdays with his dad who has a new partner, “My husband’s new fiancé Jenevieve (yes with a “J”) is acting like Chris is her son. She is trying to teach Chris to call her Mommy even though that is what he calls me,” she revealed.

Jenevieve likes to let her thoughts known, “She criticises my purchases in baby products and calls me cheap and even tells me she should have part custody even though she and Ben aren’t even married.”


The frustrated mum to Christopher went on to share more, “What pushed me too far was when I posted a picture of my baby. Jenevieve had the audacity to tell me I can’t take a picture of MY baby without her permission. I gave birth to the baby and I take care of him for most of the week. The worst part is that she posts pictures of the baby and when she does, she makes it seem like he is her son.”

When the mum to Christopher shared with her ex-husband that she was uncomfortable, she was put in her place, “Ben said I am being an ass and Jen is just being nice.”

Do you think she’s being unreasonable? Or have Jenevieve overstepped the boundaries?

  • Jenivieve needs to pull her head in and let Mum do what she wants with ‘her’ baby!


  • Oh no, what a horrible situation. I wouldn’t want my baby anywhere near this woman in fear she would try keep my baby.


  • I’d be getting legal help as soon as possible – you need your child to know who its real mother is and this person is usurping the role in every way. Sorry your ex is so unsupportive, but guess that’s one of the reasons you are no longer together.

    • Yes, I agree with this

      • agree with this too. Surely it is just going to confuse the baby, if nothing else? Not okay.


  • Sounds like something out of the movie the hand that rocks the cradle!!!
    She has definitely over stepped the boundaries but also I guess it’s nice that she treats the baby like her own and she’s not an evil step mother like the villains in Disney movies!


  • I’d be happy to be rid of the husband. As for J – she is definitely overstepping the mark – how dare she!


  • That this lady had the audacity to tell the mum she can’t take a picture of the her very own baby without her permission….WOAH !!


  • As a step parent myself there is no way the mother is being an ass, the new parental figure needs to know that she isn’t the mum. No one will ever replace their biological mum but you can add being an amazing, easy going and not over powering step mum to the list.


  • That’s so messed up. Not just about her trying to get the baby to call her mum but also that the ex husband is engaged to someone else so soon.


  • Yes, she is over stepping your boundaries, and your son’s.
    Go for supervised access with just your ex, not her.
    She can be only Aunty J or Jen to your baby, when he can speak, never Mummy.
    Diarize everything she does that gets your goat and particularly take pictures of her facebook posts.

    News flash: she is not being nice, but controlling and highly manipulative.


  • Parenting plan needed


  • You really need o get a parenting agreement in place.


  • Definitely stepped over the line.


  • Jenevieve had definitely overstepped the boundaries. Calling her mommy – NO WAY. I would be putting her in her place quick smart regardless of what Ben has to say.


  • Oh I feel for her. I had a similar experience with my MIL literally acting like my baby was hers. Even calling herself mum to my baby!


  • Very wrong indeed ! I would get a lawyer involved as well.


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