He may have thought the classmate got an abortion, so it was probably a shock to him when the daughter turned up. He should have told his wife, but then again, the wife’s reaction is the key issue here. How would she have reacted?

It would have been easier when he would have been open from the beginning and I wonder why it was so hard for him to be open, what were his true fears ? Sharing his story years ago would have put their relationship at a test and this could have proved how healthy or unhealthy the relationship was; which can be used as a positive thing in my opinion

Massive dishonesty, what else is he hiding

Interesting situation, but honesty is always the best. He should have told her about his daughter from the start. Hopefully all works out.

I really think it’s a bad sign that he hid this from her; and an even worse sign that he’s so rude and dismissive when she expresssed concern.

Bring on the dovorce.

I don’t get why he was hiding his daughter from her, it’s not like he had cheated on her. It was from a long time before he got together with her.

She should have known. That’s not private information in a relationship

The longer you keep a secret, the harder it becomes to be honest

Wow that is a tough situation. He should have told his wife especially since he is in contact with his daughter. Hopefully they can get over the hurt.

I don’t know what I will do in that situation.

Gosh, that’s a tough situation. I can understand him being scared of losing you or anything happening while pregnant but to hide it for so long is really damaging to your relationship. It will take a long time to build that trust back up in your relationship. And to say that it has nothing to do with you is awful. It affects everyone and your children have a half-sibling that none of you every knew about. He’s got a long way to go to repairing your relationship

It was in the past but still when he found should have been up front when he found out. Keeping the secret led to assumptions down other avenues. It for him to handle his daughter but she has a right to know about her exisitence.

It’s not as though he cheated on you as it happened a long time before you had met. Maybe he didn’t want to say anything more from guilt on his part than for any other reason. I know you feel hurt and so you should, what he did was wrong by not telling you and then lying when he said it was a wrong number. He should have trusted you. Hopefully he apologises for the way he went about the whole situation. It would be nice if you could meet her and your husband can win back your trust for not telling you when he found out himself.

I think the husband is in the wrong. I can understand him being worried about how his wife might react, and if he only found out the news about his teenage daughter when his wife was due to have their baby, not wanting to cause her any extra stress around that time. He was possibly quite confused about the whole situation and trying to get his own head around it, adding to the fear of losing his wife and soon to be born child.
To go behind his wife and family’s back though, have a second sim card and not try and include his wife and family in the life of his teenage daughter is wrong. He’s preventing them from forming a relationship, the kids have a half sibling that they have the right to know.