Not really up to him. He might need to go and seek some help about that.

I wouldn’t make a big deal about it now, wouldn’t say anything more about it either way. On the day when you’re in labour, if you want it, ask for it and insist it’s what you want. If hubby doesn’t like it too bad. He’s not the one in pain and the medical professionals will be there to back you up.

Oh dear. He is creating friction about something that isn’t about him. It’s her body, her pain etc.

When he gets a medical degree he can decide. Should take about seven years, so you pop out a few kids in the meantime, any way you choose.

Sounds like he is very concerned and probably needs reassurance from a medical professional. She may not need one anyway, however her delivery team may intervene without his approval (not needed) if it’s the best thing for her and baby

I had one. Never had any issues after. Not his choice I’d say.

Wow, I only needed to read the headline to think no way straight away. Only one person giving birth, only one person has a say on how that birth goes

I get where he is coming from, but ultimately if you are in too much pain you should have the final say. Don’t let that be the only thought because you might breeze through the labour. So keep all options open and enjoy your pregnancy stress free.

It’s not up to him. Unless he’s the one giving birth he doesn’t get to choose .. end of story..

Good! At least one parent cares about the well-being of the baby. They are so dangerous and we just think or yeah of course why would I experience the joy of natural labour. My husband was the best support when I thought I could t do it anymore. He reminded me what I really wanted and didn’t let me waiver in the hardest moments.

How ridiculous! My partner let me do what ever I wanted in that labour room as long as I was ok and the baby was ok.

I am so sorry this lady is experiencing this situation, it sounds horrible and very stressful. I think telling to her doctor and getting all the information and making her own decision on what she should do with her body is the right call. Her husband is allowed to express his views but in the end it is her body so her choice.

Has anyone thought he is trying to stop pain and agony ongoing down the track after an epidural? My husband had one during an operation and was unable to walk for almost 3 months. He wouldn’t recommend anyone to have one unless absolutely necessary. I also know many nurses/midwives who have seen this procedure go wrong so many times that they refused it during giving birth to their own children. There are two sides to most stories. Do hope it all works out well for you, no matter what is finally decided, expectant mum!

I didn’t need an epidural but I am concerned how this husband thinks he can dictate what his wife can and can’t have for pain relief? It should be up to her as she will be the one in pain and be able to decide what she thinks she needs.

I suffered 4 months of postnatal pain due to epidural

I was blessed to be free to do what I wanted. I was hoping not to get the epidural but when the gas did nothing and I was totally exhausted I called for it.

Maybe that’s why husband’s weren’t allowed in the birthing rooms before because they would tell their partner and the nurses and midwife what they could and couldn’t do. Hook him up to a labour stimulator and see how he handles it (I’d put it on the highest point it can go to). See if he changes his mind then.

Um, unless he can birth a child from his vagina or via C-section, I don’t think he gets to tell you what you can do in this situation. And what if a C-section is required? Surely a healthy baby is the outcome. My hubby and I didn’t even discuss it. I needed everything during birth, pethidine, gas, then epidural. And mine went wrong, puncturing my fluid sac and then requiring a blood patch. But I still wouldn’t tell anyone else not to have an epidural. It’s their birth, their experience.

‘Won’t allow you’ !? I’m most concerned that this women would even be with someone that thinks they can dictate what she will or won’t do, in any part of her life.. Controlling red flag

I love what the expert said. I reckon if her hubby had an inkling what it feels like he might feel differently.