A first time mum has been left heartbroken by her husband’s family, who are so desperate for her to have a boy, they won’t accept the fact she’s having a girl.
The 27-year-old says she’s pregnant with the first grandchild on her husband’s side, and her mother-in-law wanted to name the baby in honour of her husband, who died from cancer. The mum-to-be says she had no problem with naming the baby after her husband’s late father, if it was a boy.
Things started to take a bit of a strange turn before she found out the gender of the baby, with her husband’s family making her attend prayers and participate in rituals to ensure she had a boy. “I didn’t like that but went with it to keep the peace,” she explained on reddit.
‘They’re pretending it’s a boy’
And then it came time for the scan – which revealed she was actually having a little girl.
“My husband cried in the car then turned his phone off to hide from his family then finally told them. His mum and the others made their frustration and disappointment clear, which bothered me cause my daughter deserves to be celebrated.
“They ghosted me for days then started coming over and visiting constantly referring to my daughter as my son claiming the results were false and basically pretending it’s a boy. I had several fights with them after they refused to stop it, and my husband sided with them despite seeing how wrong and unreasonable what they were doing was. We didn’t speak for a while.”
When the dust settled, the expecting mum’s sister-in-law reached out to apologise, and let her know the family had organised a baby shower for her.
“I was so excited and happy. But when I arrived I saw blue balloons, blue cake with my father-in-law’s name/decorations around. I was so confused I had to sit down. My sister-in-law explained they were ‘still’ hoping the gender results are false and it’s a boy. I looked at my husband and he agreed with her. I lost my temper and yelled at them all calling them delusional and telling them to stop treating my daughter like she’s unwanted and act like she doesn’t exist by throwing a party for ‘their imaginary grandson’. My mother-in-law breaks down crying, I took my bag and walked out immediately.
“They started yelling and my husband followed me outside and started arguing about how I insulted his family, and his dad’s memory by acting like that. I told him to wake up and see the insanity in his family’s behaviour. He said they needed time to process the fact that it’s a girl not a boy as they expected and insisted I play along and ‘they’ll soon get over it’.
“I said absolutely not and demanded he take me home. He said no so I called an Uber and left. He was fuming he called 15 times, then texted that he won’t be coming home until I ‘get my ass’ over and apologise for ruining everything THEY’VE DONE FOR ME and accusing them of being mentally unstable. I haven’t responded yet he’s constantly pressuring me to get right with his family before we even talk about anything else.”
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- 14 May 2022 , 10:51 pm
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