An expecting mum has had her gender reveal party ruined by her sister-in-law and mother-in-law, forcing her to cut them off from all other baby-related activities.
The mum-to-be is expecting her first baby, and it’s a pregnancy tinged with sadness. She lost her mum and dad to Covid a year ago, and being an only child, her only relatives are her husband’s family.
The baby will be the first grandchild and nephew for her husband’s family, so the expecting mum has been trying to include them as much as possible. “My husband’s family has welcomed me with open arms as part of them and I have become very close to my MIL and SIL,” she explained on reddit.
The mum-to-be has always wanted a gender reveal party, and says she trusted her sister-in-law to organise the event.
“With three days to go before the party, I started to receive messages from all my husband’s relatives and even close friends congratulating me on my baby being a boy.
“I went to ask what happened, my SIL confessed that she let it slip to my MIL and she told everyone the sex of the baby after knowing, because she couldn’t hold it. Nobody call me to tell this. The party was cancelled and I was heartbroken, as well as extremely hurt by the two of them.
“Usually they accompanied me to the ultrasound, shopping for the baby’ room and my MIL would stay at the time of delivery.
“But after this breach of trust, I stopped inviting them and asked them to respect my boundaries when they pressured me to go. Honestly, I didn’t even send them the baby shower invite, because I really avoided contact with them as much as possible. Because everyone knew before me that it was a boy.
“My husband started complaining that I was pushing them away because of a mistake that could happen and that I was being harsh.
“Yesterday he brought up this and when I said that I still didn’t feel comfortable with them, he said, ‘Soon you’ll tell me that my mother won’t be able to go to the birth’.
“I think my face showed my response and he started saying I was being too hard on her because she was just excited. I had my limit and said, ‘If you keep pushing me, it won’t just be your mother who won’t be on my labour. So either stop or you won’t come in.’
“He started to say that I was crossing lines and that he had a right to have this moment. I was taking this with them too far. He slept on the couch and doesn’t talk to me more than necessary.”
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