Kids should be free to express themselves, especially in the comfort of their own home, but when one grandma steps in and shares her opinion, was this couple right to kick her out?

One mum shares how she wants her son to be free to express himself, however he chooses, “My son is 6 and likes to wear dresses sometimes indoors. And we just do not care.”

“If he comes out as trans, gay, whatever my husband and I 100% support him and love him the way he is,” she revealed in her heartfelt post on reddit.

Her mother-in-law had arrived to stay for an extended period, while she was in between moving houses, “My MIL was planning to stay over for a few weeks before she moves houses. The second day she was here my son wears a dress. MIL makes a screwy face and asks my husband what he’s doing out of our son’s earshot. I didn’t quite hear what my husband said but MIL kept a screwy face for the rest of the day but made no more comment.”

Her mother-in-law didn’t get the hint, and started again, “A couple of days later he wears a dress again. This time MIL turns to our son and says in a very judge-y and mean tone ‘why don’t you go put some jeans on? Why do you want to wear a dress?’.”

Her son was upset at his grandma’s comment, “He had tears in his eyes and came over to me for a cuddle. He was sad and ashamed. I comforted him and told him ‘nope you’re fine to wear a dress please don’t worry’.”

She then politely stood up to her mother-in-law, “I calmly asked MIL for a word in the kitchen. I told her that I want my kids to love themselves and it’s very important for me and her son to install self confidence in them. And that I would prefer she stay with her daughter instead.”

“My husband totally backed me up on this. So we called and arranged for her to stay at my SIL. She was fine with it and we knew MIL would be fine there,” the woman shared, relieved to be able to move her mother-in-law out of her home.

Her mother-in-law wasn’t impressed, “MIL expressed how she couldn’t believe we were being so drastic. But it’s our house and we take her attitude against our son very seriously. This is a judge free house in that way.”

The drama didn’t end there though, with the mother-in-law sharing her disappointment with other family members to rally their support, “She has unfortunately involved a few family members who don’t agree with our decision and have took it upon themselves to tell us.”

Do you think they did the right thing by asking the grandma to move on?

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  • Maybe respect is lacking from a parties. Yes there ate generation gaps with different opinions, but always have respect.


  • I just think it doesn’t work any grandparent living with a family unless they are willing to not interfere in how the house is run, or in what the children do. She interfered and made rude judgements so after a conversation if she still did this she’d then have to move on


  • Parents did what they thought were right for their kid, we are no one to judge anyone.


  • I feel for the son. He’s Grandma should not be belittling or bullying him but accepting him how he is. Good on the parents for not telling their son what he should or shouldn’t wear


  • I’m glad they stuck up for their son but also very hard for older generations to understand

    • Hit the mail on the head there. Grandmas come from a different era…… and although her attitude is wrong, it was probably the attitude she was raised with back in the day.


  • Mothers of mothers and mother-in-laws always do what the parents don’t want them to do, let’s face it.


  • The article just started with, “My mother-in-law….” Nothing else is needed hahaha. Mother-in-laws live to do whatever their daughter-in-laws dislike and disagree to. Its just FACTS.


  • Grandparents need to learn to stay out of it, it’s up to the parents to look after their children and allow them to express themselves. My son has two sisters and he likes to wear nail polish the same as them. It’s absolutely fine


  • I think it’s really important to support your kids’ choices – and that’s what they’re doing.


  • I think if he was upset by her comments, it’s fair to pull the grandparent up on it. They shouldn’t be upsetting their grandchildren. I think I’d react the same way as a parent


  • You are very good to your son. Grandparents come from a different time. I’m glad parents are more willing to accept kids differences. Nothing wrong with dressing up.


  • Dressing up box is great play. Also who cares whqt you wear, so long as you are happy? It isnt hurting anyone.


  • You sound like super parents, non judgy, and backing each other up. You spoke up for yr son and the MIL still kept up the toxic response- sge had her chance and blew it. Sad that she had to drag more family into it, it is no one’s business but yours! But MIL is the one who loses out here. Good on you for sticking to what you believe in.


  • Perhaps the parents should have pretold grandma about the dresses and not left it just a surprise. On saying that she should have got the hint that it was okay for him to wear dresses after the first time where mum showed their acceptance. Grandma will have to deal with it or lose her family.


  • I think it was the right move to have a conversation with the grand mother. I would probably have given the grand mother another chance before I asked her to stay somewhere else.


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