A first-time mum, navigating a high-risk pregnancy, says her husband’s family is desperate to throw her a bedside baby shower to ‘cheer her up’. But she’s mortified at the idea, and it’s causing an awkward rift.
The mum-to-be says she’s put on bed rest by her doctor, because she’s at risk of an early delivery due to placenta previa.
“All in all I’m miserable and scared,” she explained on reddit. “My MIL and SIL got it into their heads that a baby shower would cheer me up and began to plan one telling me they’d have it around the bed so I don’t need to move around a lot and I can just rest the entire time.”
The idea has raised the ire of the expecting mum, who just wants to be able to concentrate on having a healthy baby.
“I don’t want this, I just want to be left alone and not bothered by anyone but my mum when she visits and my husband. I got a bit snappish and told them I didn’t want a baby shower and I certainly didn’t want them all around my bed holding a party and that I didn’t feel like celebrating at all.
“They got upset and told me they were just trying to keep my spirits high and cheer me up and even tried to convince my husband this is exactly what I needed.”
Her husband has tried to remain supportive, but explained that his family only want to help lift her spirits.
“When they left he tried to tell me that they didn’t mean anything badly and that he’d support whatever choice I made but maybe this could be good for me as he hated to see me cooped up so much. I know they mean well and are trying to be nice but I really don’t feel like a party.
“I know everyone is so worried about the baby and they’re trying to focus on something positive and happy right now and I should probably just cave and give them this to have something to focus on but the idea of sitting through a party like that when I have no idea how this pregnancy will go makes me want to cry. Should I just give them this?”
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