You could always tell them you can’t afford to help out financially because you’re broke from all the therapy you’ve had to have. Because wishing a miscarriage on someone is not a good sign of a healthy mind. Tell them the gravy train has left the station and they no longer have free tickets to ride.

Sounds like a toxic family for this lady, I’d start to make distance and focus kn your self for a while lovely

wow, the family dynamic here is not a good one. The sisters Husband should be providing, if your business is not working out sell up OR get a side job. Simple.

I feel very sorry for both parties involved here. Communication clearly got lost a long time ago.

Very difficult situation. Noone should be put in that situation.

Considering that the family are not communicating with you, then it is the ideal time to stop shelling out for your sister’s children. My personal opinion is that if you cannot afford to provide fully for your children, you shouldn’t have them, so I am with you 100% in this context. Stand your ground and stop paying.

Don’t give her anymore money. Your parents are being really rude and disrespectful in texting you how much your sister needs. I think you need to put up some boundaries and tell them you aren’t their cash cow. It seems like neither your parents or sister have any respect for you and if they are likely to say you’re just being jealous etc maybe you don’t need that kind of thing/those people in your life. Don’t let your sister and parents manipulate you.

Time to set some boundaries so that no one gets taken advantage of.

Awww you poor thing. The expectation on you from your family is just terrible. You are not responsible for your sister. Your parents are not responsible for your sister. She and her husband are responsible for their family. This is a horrible situation and you are being treated so unfairly.

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  • • Mum2archer replied
    • 30 May 2022 , 11:10 pm

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  Very well said and I agree with you 100%. How awful that they are making her feel this way

I understand where she’s coming from. I was unable to have children for a long time and my half sister would fall pregnant at the drop of a hat. She didn’t work and her and her husband didn’t get much money. I’d be the one asked to “lend her money” even though everyone knew it would never be paid back. I finally said no and would only spend money on her children for Christmas or Birthdays. She would tell me what she wanted me to get them and I’d buy what I knew they wanted. She finally realised she couldn’t manipulate me. I now have 2 wonderful and caring boys and I’ve never borrowed from anyone.

If the aunt wants to spoil her nieces/nephews that is her choice but if her sister can’t afford to raise the children she already has, she needs to really think about it before having anymore children.

I wouldn’t wish a miscarriage on anyone, but I do understand the sentiment. I would not be giving over the money. They should be paying their own way. If the grandparents want to help them with money, that is for them, but the sister should not be the one supporting them.

Wow it’s pretty disappointing that people expect others to help them out all the time. If you can’t afford to have kids then you shouldn’t be having them.
While I think hoping she loses the baby might be going a bit far, I understand your frustration and I wouldn’t be opening up my purse to her anymore.

Wanting her to miscarry is absolutely horrible. But I can also completely understand that she does not want to be the one paying for them to be brought into the world. I think she needs contraception for christmas

Wanting her to miscarry is going a little too far but I can understand your frustration

My sister is having her 4th child but isn’t mentally well enough to look after it
Her other children live with there fathers
Its hard to watch but it’s her decision and all you can do is have hope things will work out