What would you do if a bully, especially one who had been giving your child a hard time, turned up to your kid’s birthday party? One mum shared her story.
One mum recently held a party for her 8-year-old son, and things didn’t go as planned, “My son just turned 8. We had a birthday party for him Saturday.”
The invite list included her son’s favourite kids, “He invited some friends from class including Kyle. I did not know Kyle was cousins with this other boy in their class Josh.”
Josh has targeted her son, and given him a bit of a hard time, “Josh has been shitty to my son for a while now. The poor kid has gone through a lot. His baby sister died, then his dad leaves him and his mom. My son has a baby brother and he has both me and my husband (his dad) still in the one home. So he has become a target for Josh’s hurt and anger.”
“It started off when they went to virtual learning last September. Josh would say things about my son. I spoke to the teacher and she said she was doing everything to correct Josh and protect my son. Then in May their school decided to test out going back in person learning all day. While there Josh was nasty to my son. Made the entire month a living hell for my son and I was on the school’s back about it. I put in for a class transfer but was denied because they were “dealing with it”. When they returned to school a few weeks ago Josh was still targeting my son.”
Josh wasn’t invited to the birthday party, and this mum wasn’t happy about him turning up, “Kyle’s mom showed up to the party Saturday with Josh. I was confused. Asked what was going on. She explained he was her nephew, etc, etc, and she was hoping it would help everyone if he was included since everything going on. I said no way. That he was not invited and given the way he treats my son he was not coming in. She argued with me but I stood firm.”
The mum shared on reddit that now her friendship with Kyle’s mum is a little fractured, “She and I got along well before this (which is why her being his aunt shocked me because you would expect it to come up when she knew about the bullying) but now she’s saying I was an asshole to a little boy and should have shown kindness and understanding. My son freaked out when he saw Josh at our house and asked if he was staying. He was so relieved he wasn’t.”
Do you think she did the right thing? Was it an opportunity for the kids to get along, or time to set boundaries?