A new mum is devastated after she was ditched from her best mate’s bridal party, because she gained weight during pregnancy.
The mum has shared her plight on Mumsnet, reaching out to fellow mums and asking if her disappointment is justified.
The mum explained that she gave birth last year and had put on around 19kg and because of her chunkiness, she was excluded from her friend’s bridal party.
I Feel Bad Enough Already…
“I do feel awful about myself, which I’ve told my friend several times…,” the mum said.
The mum wrote: “We’ve been friends for a long time and over the years she has always made references to me being a bridesmaid when she gets married.
“This afternoon she tagged 4 friends on Facebook introducing them as her ‘team bride’.
“I felt really upset about it, but still, I messaged her to say congratulations on the team bride.
“It Wouldn’t Be Right For Me!?!”
“She replied saying she really wanted me to be a part of it but it wouldn’t have been right for me.”
The bride told her that the bridesmaid dress she had picked “would be an issue given how you feel about yourself right now”.
It’s Just A Big FAT Excuse
The woman said she feels like the bride is using her insecurities as an ‘excuse’
“I feel so hurt at her reasons for not asking me to be a bridesmaid.
“All 4 girls she’s picked are super stick thin (as is my friend) maybe size 8/10’s, I’m a size 16/18 and I can’t help but feel I’d ruin the ‘image’ if she picked me and that’s exactly why she hasn’t asked me.
“She is right that I wouldn’t feel great in that dress right now, but her wedding isn’t until May next year which would’ve given me plenty of time to lose some weight!!
“Am I being unreasonable to think she doesn’t want me in her team bride because of how I look, she’s thinking more about having ‘perfect’ pictures, and just using my feelings as an excuse?”
Yikes! So Cringy
The sad mum also shared a text message from her so-called friend, in which she explains why she’s leaving her out of the bridal party.
“I just think the dress would be an issue given how you feel about yourself right now.
“I know the style wouldn’t compliment your body shape or be something you’d ever typically wear and I know you’d feel uncomfortable if you did have to wear it.
“I have my heart set on those dresses and I wouldn’t expect you to wear something that wasn’t right for you, but I also wouldn’t want to compromise and change my dresses.
“All of the girls love them and feel super happy wearing them,” the text read.
The Mumsnetters were absolutely disgusted by the bride’s behaviour and called her many unsavoury names.
“Absolute cowbag!” said one.
“Wow. That is not a friend you need in your life. I’m sorry OP but she is utterly self-absorbed!”
“How unbearably superficial of her. I honestly would not feel able to be friends with someone so unutterably vain.”
“That is absolutely brutal. What a horrible person she is!”
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