April 11, 2017


Parents’ reactions can lessen or worsen pain for injured kids.

Most kids are going to be injured at some point during their childhood. It will be stressful for the child, and potentially even more so for the parent. Parents can suffer feelings of guilt and anxiety, and a minority will also develop post-traumatic stress following their child’s injury. The Conversation

Some new research (yet to be published) has looked at family coping and distress during a dressing change following a burn injury in kids. The 18-month study observed 92 families during their young child’s (one to six years) first burn dressing change at a Brisbane hospital.

Parents who reported they were more anxious or distressed were less able to support their child during the procedure. This decreased the child’s ability to cope and increased the child’s distress, which was measured by their ability to be distracted by toys and conversation, compared to crying or screaming during the dressing change.

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Ratings of child anxiety and pain during the dressing change were also greater for children of parents who were less able to support their child during the dressing change.

Our minds have a limit to what they can focus on at once. Therefore, a mind that is preoccupied with other things will perceive the pain as less than a mind that is focused on the pain alone. This is why we think distraction is helpful for the child during the dressing change.

The study’s findings show parents need to receive additional support following their child’s injury and during medical treatment. This additional support would benefit the parents, and also the child. A less distressing treatment means less trauma for all, as well as lower pain and anxiety experienced by the child.

Research also shows lower anxiety is linked with quicker wound healing in children. Quicker wound healing means less medical intervention, and kids can get back to school and the playground faster.

No-one likes to think of their child sustaining an injury. But it can be handy to have a few tips up your sleeve if you do need to take your child for medical treatment, for yourself as much as for your child.

What to do

• Distract your child early on in the treatment (toys, food, music, pictures, TV, conversation, nursing, pacifier. You know what works best)

• Be close by. Reassuring touch tells them you are with them

• Some kids like to watch, others don’t. If they want to, let them but also keep encouraging distracting behaviour

• Encourage your child to do deep breathing exercises. This is something you can do together to slow down your and your child’s heart rate

• Remain calm and confident, even if you find the treatment difficult to watch

• Say things like “look at me and squeeze my hand,” “who is that on the TV?,” “can you tell the nurse what we are going to do after this?,” “remember when we went to the park and […],” and “show me how you do deep breathing”.

What to avoid

• Scaring them with how painful the medical treatment will be or “how bad it looks”

• Criticising their behaviour

• Minimising their experience (“you’re okay,” “almost done”)

• Encouraging the pain (“I know it hurts a lot”)

It’s common for parents to feel upset themselves following a young child’s injury. All parents struggle with anxious and guilt-ridden thoughts about their child’s health from time to time, so it can help to treat yourself with kindness and remind yourself you’re doing what you can to give your child the best medical care.

It helps to stay focused on helping your child during stressful medical treatment, rather than worry about the injury severity. If you’re concerned about your own coping during the treatment, invite a second adult along to support your child if you need to take a break.

You can also seek further support through talking with your child’s nurse or social worker, or your local doctor.

This article was originally published on The Conversation. Read the original article.

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  • this is a good article. we really are the role models for our children and in tough situations like this, it can be hard to be calm


  • Some hospitals have a supply of donated teddies they give to children when they are taken into emergency to comfort and relax them. It also keeps little fingers occupied and makes it easier for staff to treat them. Some Ambulances carry some too. I have also heard of young children who have come in with sick adults occasionally being given one too.


  • This article is fabulous, and the tips will be really useful. I tend to get more worked up than my kids sometimes, which makes them think their injury is worse than it is!


  • All great ideas to deal with when children are injured!


  • That makes sense. Think distraction works the best !


  • This makes me think of when my son needed stitches. I winced my way thru all the numbing needles INTO the cut. He is now terrified of needles :(


  • my daughter has to have blood tests every 6 months & she hates them – we have found she is better if we can distract her, go as near as possible to the test time so she doesn’t have more time to fret & to try and be calm with her. Bribery works too! :)


  • I got told when I had one of my kid’s injections that I was a good girl!


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