Parents don’t expect a Mary Poppins in a nanny (although that is the dream!). But ultimately, our kids are our most priceless possession and a nanny need to at least give the impression that they actually like children and are not just in it for the cash.

We’re certainly not asking a nanny to look after our kids for free. But I would like to think that a person who becomes a nanny does so because they do enjoy spending time with children and not solely for the goal of becoming rich.

I Just Couldn’t Believe The Audacity Of This Ad!

Recently, a nanny placed a job seeker ad in a local Nannies and Au Pairs Facebook group. I don’t usually spend too much time in this group as my kids are now school aged. But I stopped, absolutely gob-smacked, when I saw this ad. Was this a joke? Was there really a nanny out there who was so entitled and lacking in EQ that they would actually post an advert like this.

Most nanny job seeker ads I see are always brimming with positivity. There is the inevitable pic of a smiley person hugging a kid and lots of encouraging words, focusing on their love for kids and their experience. Money is never even mentioned. And yes, I get the warm and fuzzies looking at these ads and bookmark them should the ned arise to hire a nanny.

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Don’t Mention Money!

I was taught at a young age that you should never mention money in the first interview. Perhaps this is old fashioned now, but I still think that it’s important to sell your skills and experience to your prospective employer first and later when they’re hooked, you can chat details.

Brimming With Entitlement

Well, clearly this particular nanny did not get the same memo. Her job ad was packed with what she should be entitled to – superannuation, paid leave, lots of hours, high pay, respect and not much about what she would bring into the job. Seriously, if this was what nannies are like these days, I will never be going on another date again.

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Professional Australian Nanny! Please read my ad carefully!” is how the post began.

Already, a red flag was being hoisted. She’s giving demands right from the start. Not a good sign.

The ad continued:

“I am NOT interested in Demi Pair, Au Pair or Mother’s help positions. Please do your research on different types of child care so you know which one is suitable for your family.

“I am ONLY interested in permanent full time (a minimum of 40 hours per week) live in Nanny positions where I will have sole charge of the children.

“I am a career Nanny and I want to be appreciated, respected and valued as an employee in Australia – annual leave, superannuation, and tax are NOT negotiable. It is a LEGAL REQUIREMENT! I need to look after myself because it is my future!”

via Facebook

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WOW and WOW and WOW again. Just imagine, I walk into an interview and say those things straight away. I reckon I would have been booted out the door without a second thought.

She then continues to provide more details about herself, including her interests and experience.

She then signs off the ad with:
“Please contact me if you are genuinely interested in me becoming your children’s Nanny!”

Lots Of Critics

As expected, I wasn’t only the one with ruffled feathers. While the nanny did receive a few posts of support from other nannies, most of the comments vehemently slammed her ad.

“There’s a difference between setting professional boundaries and being rude. You’re expecting your potential family to pay you THEIR money. You wouldn’t add all that to a resume so personally I wouldn’t add it to a Facebook add,” said one.

“No offence…but I wouldn’t hire you with that ad. It’s a bit scary and confronting! Doesn’t exactly scream “tender, loving and nurturing,” which would be my #1 priority for a nanny. Just a heads up from a parent,” said another.

“You will not get anyone interested by selling yourself in the tone of your advert , the first thing us mothers see is you lecturing people on educating themselves on what different types of nanny’s are. No softness to your advert at all you are not doing yourself any favours,” said another mum.

“Geez. If my CV was this harsh I’d be unemployed. You can say the exact same in a softer tone… I would honestly be scared of you or to leave my kids with you after reading the ad,” rebuked another.

Back Off!

While a handful of nannies expressed their support, most told her to back off.

“Good on you. We deserve super and fair pay, like anyone else in the workforce,” said one nanny.

“I get where you are coming from, really I do – from one child carer to another.
But to be honest that ad screams self entitlement and I wouldn’t want someone with that attitude caring for my son.
I would want the person to focus on care, not money,” another said.

But She Kept On Going….

The worst thing about this whole situation is that the nanny didn’t take any of the comments as constructive criticism. Instead she got more and more defensive.

The nanny explained the reasoning behind her ‘harsh’ ad:
“I will not adjust my ad because it may appear harsh. I posted the exact same ad without the opening message last night and I was being messaged by people who were not reading my ad properly and wanted me to work less than full time. It was not suitable and just wasted my time and theirs. I obviously need to be more upfront with what I am searching for hence my opening… They can choose to scroll on if they are wanting an Au Pair.”

She then followed it up with:
“This is bullying! What a way to teach your children how to treat people… Please go and work for someone who does not offer annual leave or superannuation. You will also have a problem with it. Disgusting…’

I Deserve More!

And then…

“I seem to have rustled some feathers. I am not sorry! Someone needs to have Nannies best interests at heart. We deserve annual leave, paid sick days, superannuation because it is legal! If you are not interested and have nothing positive to contribute then please leave and move on.”

She then promptly deleted her advert, but not before she got many of our knickers in a mighty big knot.

I don’t usually get that worked up about posts on Facebook – I generally do scroll by when I don’t like something. But this post really irked me – it just wreaked of entitlement and unprofessionalism. I would recommend this nanny look at alternative employment as you need to be caring to be a carer.

Would you hire a nanny who posted such an ad? What did you think when you read it? Tell us in the comments below.

  • Whoa! I would definitely NOT hire someone like her! I don’t like demanding people and I feel like she would be so harsh to children. No way…


  • She has a lot to learn. Although some of her ad had some important things to highlight the manner and timing needs changing


  • I couldn’t believe this when I read it. She’s all about what she wants but not once does she explain what experiences she’s had and what she can do for your children. I also couldn’t believe that she wants sole charge of your children. I don’t care how good she is, after reading her advert I’d be giving her a wide berth. I couldn’t bear to think of leaving my children with someone who would advertise in this way.


  • She possibly had past bad experiences and wanted to be upfront to avoid the same treatment
    However, there is politer ways of articulating this.
    I would have to keep scrolling past her as if I was looking for a nanny


  • Wow, she is just rude- imagine having to deal with her on a daily basis!


  • Would scroll right on by this ad and not hire her in a million years. Thanks for your post


  • I think she shows confidence, which is definitely needed in today’s job market. Maybe she feels the need to be so upfront because of a bad experience


  • As someone’s who’s worked as a nanny I see both sides – but this ad would make me flick right past! No way I’d want her looking after my children, or even know her as an associate!
    Yes a big gap in working as a nanny in Australia is no super, no paid sick days and no tax. But some of that is made up for in higher hourly rates we get. And some families will do a contract that includes super or sick days.

    But to write and post an ad this is very money focused and very ‘me’ focussed isn’t the way to go. And it doesn’t say anything about the person she is and what she’ll contribute to the family.
    I can understand being clear about hours and the type of work – but again, it’s not a major issue. If I got a few replies to an ad that was less hours then I was looking for or different type of nanny work then I just reply that it’s not appropriate for me. Doesn’t take that long!!

    What concerns me as well is this person stating ‘I will have sole charge of your children’ – that’s a red flag for me too.
    She sounds very dictorial and aggressive.
    Being a nanny means being entrusted with someone’s most precious things – their children! I never take that lightly and never have. It’s the biggest choice a parent will make is the type of childcare and who they entrust their children to.

    Yes nannying can be taken advantage of in terms of pay or expectations and that’s where you need to be firm. I once had a family advertise for a nanny for 2 kids – but the actual hours looking after the children was taking them to school and picking up from school. The rest of the ad stated they wanted the nanny to clean the house, prepare and cook meals, so washing and whatever other house tasks in the time during school hours’
    This was literally wanting a housekeeper who additionally took the kids to and from school. It was rude to me as that’s not a nanny job. And the pay was $10 an hour. Not ok!!

    But part of nannying work is that we do it because we love it and we have a passion for children. And really care about their welfare. Pay and other things can be worked out after initial interview and when both the nanny and the family are happy.
    Would not contact this nanny in a heartbeat!!


  • At least this girl is upfront and honest, that is excellent for someone who is looking after children. I don’t like the sneaky ones…..”Yes, yes, I will look after your precious one for 2cents an hour, at your whim, with no possibility of retirement. No, no, I will not get bitter at all with your treatment of me and take it out on your children.” Really? Wou l d work like this? Oh, hang on, no you don’t! Perhaps people should stay home and look after their own babies or remember, good staff cost money.


  • I would certainly not want to hire this nanny with her great demands and expectations. The next thing she would be wanting I guess is to sign a contract with you so that all her demands are in black and white and she can walk out on you whenever she wants. You, as her employer, have to call the shots and not her and both have to work together for the welfare of the child.


  • No! I wouldn’t even reply or interview this Nanny.


  • Would most definitely not hire someone who’s so obnoxiously rude. Imagine what she will be teaching the kids. If this is how she is on Facebook, imagine hiring her. I would like someone whom I can tell what to do or not with my kids. Someone who throws demands and can’t take on feedback positively will definitely not be suitable to work with kids.


  • At least it was grammatical and used words correctly, which your post didn’t (though that may not have been your error). If that was the entirety of the ad, sure, she’s got a problem. But if that was just an intro, it’s more understandable.


  • Feeling is mutual. I can’t leave my kid with someone who is so demanding and not caring


  • This could’ve been worded better. I say move on to the next person


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