This family is part of the Gender Creative Parenting movement and have decided to raise their two-year-old toddler “Zoomer” in a gender neutral environment.
Kyl and Brent Myer from Utah have made a conscious decision not to tell people if their child is a girl or a boy, shares The Sun.
Little Zoomer is therefore a “theyby”.
Other than the immediate family, the modern parents said they: “Don’t disclose their sex to people who don’t need to know.”
Hi! We’ve made quite a few new friends since Alex Morris’ #THEYBY article came out in @NYmag and @TheCut this week. We want to introduce ourselves to you and welcome you into our world! I’m Kyl, Zoomer’s mom, Brent is Zoomer’s dad, and Zoomer is our incredible little toddler. Brent and I practice gender creative parenting. We didn’t assign a gender to Zoomer, we don’t disclose their sex to people who don’t need to know, and we use gender-neutral pronouns for Zoomer (they/them/their). We actively work to provide Zoomer with an environment that celebrates their individuality. We expose them to all kinds of toys, clothes, colors and activities and we encourage their interests and self-expression. Parenting this way has certainly reduced Zoomer’s experiences with gendered micro-aggressions and stereotypes. Additionally, we actively strive to teach Zoomer about diversity, inclusion, equality, autonomy, and social justice. We are able to do this with an amazing network of supportive and loving family members, friends, and caretakers. We are very proud and confident about our decision to raise Zoomer this way and we felt a responsibility to be a resource for people who are interested in learning more about gender creative parenting. As you’ll see, there is virtually NO negativity on our account. We are proud of the community we have cultivated here and we intentionally created a space that is accessible, respectful, kind and fun. We’re happy you’re here. Check out our website RaisingZoomer.com and my TEDx talk (google “Kyl Myers TED talk”). We hope you find what you’re looking for. Feel free to DM us with your questions. And if you feel so inclined, we’d love to know more about you! ⭐️ What’s your name, where are you from, and what brought you here? ⭐️ ???? – The Courtney-Myers Family
Kyl and Brent have also opted to use gender neutral pronouns when referring to their little one, like they/them/their.
They made the choice in an attempt to unburden their baby from being “pigeon-holed” as a specific gender. Kyl said or her blog, “The sex does not tell us anything about the child’s personality, temperament, favourite colour, dietary preferences, sense of humour, attitudes toward climate change, or any of their other unique traits.
“Just like the fact they have two arms doesn’t tell us anything else about them, except they have two arms.”
She does however acknowledge that Zoomer, or Z for short, will eventually identify as one of the genders and stressed that they aren’t banning the child from expressing any gender-specific preferences. She said in a blog post: “Zoomer will most likely choose a gender by the time they are three or four.
The gender creative kids are alright. Zoomer is happy and healthy and kind, curious, and clever. We are so proud to be Z’s parents and very confident in our parenting decisions. Every parent does what they think is best for their kids. People are uncomfortable with change, that’s ok. But change is coming! Buckle up and enjoy the ride! ❤️
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“We simply don’t believe that is our decision to make on their behalf. By not revealing their sex, and by treating them in a gender creative way, Z will have the freedom to explore and create their own identity, outside of the restrictions and expectations of traditional gender norms.”
If people don’t know Zoomer’s sex, they can’t treat them like a boy or a girl, but rather, Z gets to be treated like the awesome little kid they are and experience a stereotype-free early childhood.
Singer Paloma Faith has also vowed not to dress her children in stereotypical “boy/girl”colours such as pink and blue, insisting: “I just want them to be who they want to be.”
Recently we shared the story of baby Searyl Atli, the Canadian government claims the 8-month-old could be the first baby in the world without a government registered gender. Read more on that story HERE.
There was also the Californian couple who have said they will allow their child to decide whether he or she would like to be raised as a boy or a girl and until then raise him or her as gender fluid. Read that HERE.
Pink shocked fans when she also revealed she is raising her children to be gender-neutral. Read her views HERE.
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