Amazing that even though you know this will only be a short term change you cant even do that to make your wife feel better. This is how selfish and self obsessed you are. Remember this when at some point in the future you become sick and remember not to ask her to help make your life easier.

He should be more supportive or maybe he can cook it while she’s in another room and then spray the area to eliminate the smell.

My husband was very supportive and he was happy to do some changes.

There was alot of food I could not stand the smell of through all of my pregnancies. And each one different to the other. I also couldn’t wear alot of my perfumes until the pregnancy was over.

As a woman who suffered with extreme Hypermesis Gravidarum I 100 percent think the husband is a jerk. I had to stop wearing perfume, lighting candles, cooking certain foods and was on a strict daily intake of 4 different anti nausea tablets 3 times a day. The smell of bacon would have set me off vomiting and would have set me back at least three days in bed. A women’s pregnancy is hard enough all the man has to do is be there so if he can make his wife’s life a bit easy by something so simple I don’t see why he wouldn’t. And I would say anyone who says otherwise had an easy pregnancy and minimal sickness.

I don’t think he’s being unreasonable. The only other thing he could do is buy it every morning until she is able to handle the smell

He has made quite a few suggestions and if she still doesn’t want him to cook it, he could suggest he could buy it every morning until she is able to tolerate the smell. It’s not like she has to cook it for him. I don’t think he is being an a*****e

It’s tough, he has offered suggestions and she wants him to give it up. He could have something else some other days and go one day a week so not give it up entirely and see if it helps? I wonder if it will go away after the first trimester. Also, he could cook outside on a bbq if they have one?

He has offered quite a few solutions and I don’t think he is being unreasonable at all. I couldn’t stand the smell of anything being cooked when I was pregnant, but still had to feed hungry mouths who needed their food prepared and cooked for them. At least he is cooking his own breakfast!!

I don’t understand why he can’t give up bacon for a period of time? His heart will thank him for it.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 13 Jul 2022 , 6:05 pm

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  Such an excellent point on both counts.

I was sick my entire pregnancy. I could smell my hubby having a coffee in the furtherest back room of the house. When he cooked chicken, I was nauseous. So my Mum took to cooking for us. I could eat it (in small doses), I just couldn’t stand the smell of it being cooked in the house. My hubby is amazing, supportive, loving and thought nothing of sparing me of anything that made me feel sick. He even brought me slurpees everyday to a job that I had to do for a few months. I’m so sorry this woman’s husband is not supportive, but selfish.

Personally I think reading this story that husband has his own needs first and think is is rather selfish considering the situation.

i think some consideration would be nice given shes the one carrying. there has to be a solution that can cater to both

I personally wouldn’t expect my husband to give anything up that he loved. I can’t stand the smell of coffee. Never have liked it. Makes me feel sick even when not pregnant. I’m not going to ask him to give it up! I think him offering solutions is fair enough, though the whole going outside is way too much!

I’m sure he can stop making it for 9 months. We have to give up so much including accepting the changes to our bodies.

My first thought is he should grow up and not cook what is making his wife sick. In saying that surely they are both adult enough to find a solution that works for both of them. They decided to have a baby together so they should work together for their baby. Mums health is vital for bubs health but dads possible breakfast addiction needs to be considered as well. Plenty or options for compromising so both of them are happy. If they can’t work out a simple breakfast/morning sickness issue they are in trouble when they get hit with bigger issues. Goodluck to them both and I hope they work it out.

I think he can give it up for 9 months, women sacrifice so much more to bring a little on into the world. It’s a small sacrifice for him and he might find something different he likes just as much. He can always go to cafe to get it.

I think you’ve given her other options

Having gone through being pregnant myself I can confirm that you do get very sensitive to smells. So if I was the hubby I would either offer to change breakfasts for a while, bbq outside or just grab a bacon and egg muffin at Macca’s on the way to work.

I can understand where the hubby is coming from but I think he needs to try to compromise for a bit and maybe just have a different breakfast for a while. It’s not forever and she’s having to give up things while she’s pregnant.