The mum said she feels caught between ruining their weekend and being a responsible parent…
A concerned mum has shared her story on Mumsnet saying that her son has asked her to lie for him. The mum says that her son has organised a cabin stay for his 17th birthday, inviting five others including his girlfriend, but has asked that his mum keep their plans a secret from his girlfriend’s parents.
Twisting The Truth
The mum says that she feels uncomfortable lying to the girl’s parents, especially as recent events have made the situation especially awkward. “My son has asked me to tell his girlfriend’s parents that I will be at the log cabin supervising otherwise his girlfriend won’t be allowed to attend,” she said. “Basically the back story is that his girlfriend’s dad walked in on him months ago and caught them in the act and has now forbidden any staying overnight with each other.” The mum said she doesn’t know whether to tell the truth and upset her son or keep it a secret and risk a loss of trust between the families. “I can’t really lie to her parents but I know it will ruin my son’s night if she is not there,” she said.
Responses to the mum’s post were varied but most agreed that lying could only end badly. “You are making yourself responsible for someone’s safety and their whereabouts,” said one parent. “Tell him you are not lying and to sort it out for themselves.” “No you can’t lie and you wouldn’t wish another parent to do it to you,” said another. Others were critical of the girl’s parents. “I’d lie for them…assuming they’re both over 16 they’re allowed to spend the night together!” one parent wrote.
Even though both children are over the age of sixteen, and this trip is obviously important to both of them, while they are still living with their parents, they have to abide by their rules. While we can understand this mum’s dilemma, lying to another parent is never a good idea.
What age would you feel comfortable about your child having their boyfriend/girlfriend stay over? Share your thoughts in the comments.
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