Do you suffer from urinary incontinence after having a bub? Jessica did, and she shares her story….

Out-dated attitudes, such as accepting incontinence after childbirth, are alive and well, even among the most educated and informed.

Secondary school teacher and mother of two Jessica Scurry, 37, was mortified to discover she had no control over her bladder when she took her eldest child, then aged three, trampolining – a pastime she had enjoyed regularly prior to becoming pregnant.

“I realised then that I wasn’t ever going to be able to go trampolining again,” Jessica said.

“I didn’t tell anyone about it or do anything because I just accepted it as a fact of life post-babies.”

Jessica said pelvic floor exercises were mentioned only rarely during antenatal classes when pregnant with her first child Frank, now four-and-a-half years old.

“I think I probably did a few pelvic floor exercises before and after the birth, but that was all,” she said.

While pregnant with daughter Mari, now 18 months, there was no discussion that she can recall about the pelvic floor during antenatal classes or after her birth.

“I was sent home three hours after she was born. A nurse visited at home me for a follow-up on day two for about an hour, and she came back one or two more times after that,” she said.

Again, no mention was made of her pelvic floor or her continence. Other more pressing issues, such as her emotional breakdown while trying to establish breastfeeding, took precedence.

“I guess it wasn’t considered to be a pressing issue,” she said.

Even her mother, a midwife herself, hadn’t drawn Jessica’s attention to her pelvic floor.

“My mother, who is in the game, and has had five children, at no time talked to me about pelvic floor or continence issues,” she said.

“My father says mum’s always rushing off to the toilet anyway, so she probably has continence issues herself. He says, ‘she’s had five kids, it’s a fact of life!’”

Jessica is typical of the young, educated young mothers who remain ignorant of the importance of a healthy pelvic floor, particularly during pregnancy and after childbirth.

She believes there is still a stigma attached to urinary incontinence, even though it occurs in one in three women who’ve ever had a baby.

“Even in my babies and mothers’ group, where a lot of things are laid bare, no-one talks about it. Incontinence is not discussed,” she said.

“I think the sanitary pad market is so good now that a lot of people just use pads and accept it as normal.”


The Continence Foundation’s 2014 special project, Pelvic floor awareness in pregnancy, childbirth and beyond, aims to reduce the number of women putting up urinary incontinence after childbirth unnecessarily.

Childbirth and pregnancy are two of the major life events associated with urinary incontinence, which is why the Continence Foundation of Australia has chosen maternity as its major theme for 2014.

Fast facts from the Continence Foundation:

  • About 4.8 million Australians – one in four people aged 15 years or over – are affected by urinary and/or faecal incontinence.
  • By 2030, the prevalence is estimated to increase to 6.5 million Australians.
  • Women are more likely to be incontinent than men – with the life stages of pregnancy and menopause a major contributing factor.
  • One in three women who have ever had a baby will wet themselves.
  • More than half of the women living in the community with incontinence are under 50 years of age (1.7 million).
  • An estimated 70 per cent of people affected by incontinence do not discuss the issue with anyone, including their GP.
  • The majority of people affected by incontinence can be cured or better managed.
  • Incontinence impacts self-esteem, motivation, dignity and independence.
  • Incontinence is more prevalent than asthma (more than 2 million), anxiety disorders (2.3 million) and arthritis (3.1 million).
  • In 2010, the cost of incontinence, including the burden of disease, was estimated to be $42.9 billion.

World Continence Week is being held June 23 – 29 2014. If you feel that continence is an area of concern for you please visit: continence.org.au

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  • So are you saying we can fix it ourselves? Or are you saying we need to seek medical help for it? I talk about it, mine isn’t bad, but it affects my life.


  • My Obstetrician was really goof at informing me of what exercises I should do.


  • Thanks for sharing this post. Something to be mindful of.


  • it is not discussed because it is seen as a personal thing. i don’t have this issue


  • Thanks for your bravery. I had 2 caesareans & still suffered with it.


  • I’m glad I didn’t suffer from it after having my babies


  • More education about the pelvic floor muscles and exercises could be very handy & useful to know that you aren’t alone; it happens.


  • yeah we should have a little more knowledge! then we could do kegels from the get go


  • This is a fantastic article! thank you for taking the time to share with us!


  • Thanks for this article and yes I am a sufferer (silently).
    Tried the exercises but they didn’t seem to help other than interrupt the flow of urine.


  • I’ve also had bladder problems since having children, I find I need to go to the toilet a lot more then before I had children.


  • It’s good the taboo is being lifted on this subject. It’s also good to know that there are ways of reducing the problem.


  • I think it’s actually more common than most woman are led to believe.
    It’s not something you want to discuss with your mums group but I think more people should be sharing their problem with friends you never know your friend might just have the same problem.


  • I too suffer from incontinence but from other reasons and I understand the frustrations that comes with the condition.There are luckily now more products available in pharmacies and supermarkets then there were before and many pharmacy staff are well trained with great information. Keep smiling it does get better and easier.


  • I was lucky that my mother told me to start doing pelvic floor exercises when I was a teenager. But I really didn’t now how to do them properly. Since having my 3 children it is a lot worse. Weddings are always a good test…with all that laughing, drinking and dancing! But I’ve now seen an incontinence physio and now do Clinical Pilates twice a week with a physio with has really helped.


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