Blogger shares the day she was “mum shamed” at the hairdressers.
Aussie Blogger New Mumma Kim was shocked to be “mum shamed” recently while getting her sons hair cut. WHY? Because of the choices one person saw in that single moment.
She shares her experience on Facebook…
New Mumma Kim wrote, “I was mum shamed today when having my hair cut, the first time in almost three years since J was born mind you! So a well deserved and much needed hair cut.
It was after this gorgeous little peach had his trim. I put him in a trolley to keep him from running away, set up my phone so he could watch youtube and as it was our Wednesday treat day, I gave him a little bag of hot chips for lunch to keep him happy and quiet for more than 5 minutes.
An elderly lady walked into the hairdresser and engaged in conversation with my J…
Rude old woman: Oh, watching a phone
J: ignores her
ROW: Whatcha got there? (Referring to the bag of chips)
J: shows her a chip then eats it with a big smile on his face.
ROW: Oh chips. Next time tell your mum to give you money, not that horrible stuff.
J: looks at me upset and confused
While my initial reaction was to tell her to bugger off and mind her own business, I had a little impressionable person with me that watches and listens to everything I say and do.
Rather than have a go at her, I took the opportunity to display the kind of behaviour I’d like him to have one day so I just smiled and said a firm thank you with a little hand gesture waving her away towards seats on the other side of the salon to avoid unnecessary conflict, she moved away.
I then explained to him “some people bring down the mood of others with their negative unsolicited opinions because they’re sad, angry or lonely and take it out on other people. These people are the ones in life that need the most love.
We both know you already demolished a punnet of fresh raspberries, some strawberries and an avocado for breakfast, you only ever drink water, you’re highly active and rarely sit in front of a screen. You’re a healthy little boy and it’s ok to have chippies every now and then.
The opinion of a random rude old woman should mean nothing to us, but how we react means a lot more to her and to the people around us”
He seemed much happier after this and continued eating his chips (Don’t ever underestimate the intelligence of a toddler, they are smart little beings and J knew exactly what I was talking about).
I know I make good parenting choices, even if people only see me when my choices may not necessarily look like the right ones.
Be confident in your choices because the opinions of others are only ever of what they see in one moment, not of your life.”
So well said, Kim. We love this post!
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