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Blogger shares the day she was “mum shamed” at the hairdressers.

Aussie Blogger New Mumma Kim was shocked to be “mum shamed” recently while getting her sons hair cut. WHY? Because of the choices one person saw in that single moment.

She shares her experience on Facebook

New Mumma Kim wrote, “I was mum shamed today when having my hair cut, the first time in almost three years since J was born mind you! So a well deserved and much needed hair cut.

It was after this gorgeous little peach had his trim. I put him in a trolley to keep him from running away, set up my phone so he could watch youtube and as it was our Wednesday treat day, I gave him a little bag of hot chips for lunch to keep him happy and quiet for more than 5 minutes.

An elderly lady walked into the hairdresser and engaged in conversation with my J…

Rude old woman: Oh, watching a phone
J: ignores her
ROW: Whatcha got there? (Referring to the bag of chips)
J: shows her a chip then eats it with a big smile on his face.
ROW: Oh chips. Next time tell your mum to give you money, not that horrible stuff.
J: looks at me upset and confused

While my initial reaction was to tell her to bugger off and mind her own business, I  had a little impressionable person with me that watches and listens to everything I  say and do.

Rather than have a go at her, I took the opportunity to display the kind of behaviour I’d like him to have one day so I  just smiled and said a firm thank you with a little hand gesture waving her away towards seats on the other side of the salon to avoid unnecessary conflict, she moved away.

I then explained to him “some people bring down the mood of others with their negative unsolicited opinions because they’re sad, angry or lonely and take it out on other people. These people are the ones in life that need the most love.

We both know you already demolished a punnet of fresh raspberries, some strawberries and an avocado for breakfast, you only ever drink water, you’re highly active and rarely sit in front of a screen. You’re a healthy little boy and it’s ok to have chippies every now and then.

The opinion of a random rude old woman should mean nothing to us, but how we react means a lot more to her and to the people around us”

He seemed much happier after this and continued eating his chips (Don’t ever underestimate the intelligence of a toddler, they are smart little beings and J knew exactly what I  was talking about).

I know I  make good parenting choices, even if people only see me when my choices may not necessarily look like the right ones.

Be confident in your choices because the opinions of others are only ever of what they see in one moment, not of your life.”

So well said, Kim. We love this post!

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  • It’s best to just ignore passive aggressive people like that!

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  • Ggrrr!!! No responsible parent would just give a young child money. I occasionally start a conversation with a young child, mainly to help to keep them amused all kids get bored when out shopping. I would never shame the person who was caring for the child. That’s rude and ignorant. Adults are supposed to set a good example. I have to confess I would have been tempted to say something, probably said it was a rare treat….then walked off. I am glad you explained it to your son.
    Having said that I know a relative who was minding another relative’s pre-school age girl and gave her some money in an op shop. The purpose was she had to hand over the money for what was being bought. The moral behind it was to teach her that things have to be paid for – in a shop they aren’t free.

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  • Well done on keeping calm and not reacting Kim :) Wonderful way of leading by example which your children and others would remember

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  • So true we should be kind to unkind people, they really need it the most !

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  • Sometimes I think the older generations feel they can say whatever they like. As you say, they have no idea how healthy he’s been eating or anything else about your lifestyle. I would never assume an older person for example, just ate microwave meals because they’re too old to cook – why make assumptions about others just because they’re younger than you??

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  • Who on earth would give a toddler money anyway?

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  • Very well done Kim. What a rude old lady

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  • You go you awesome mum!!!

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  • I love your answer. It was the perfect one!!

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  • You rock ‘New Mumma Kim’, you rock ! :)

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  • I agree. You did the right thing in this situation.

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