The pregnant mum says she frequently left her five year old son home alone…until she got caught!

A soon to be mum-of-two has shared a controversial post on Reddit, admitting that she has no issue leaving her five year old son home alone while she goes food shopping. The mum said that she finds it difficult to get her son organised to go out, especially while pregnant, and has taken to leaving him by himself for up to an hour at a time.

Our Little Secret

The mum admitted that she didn’t tell her fiance that she was leaving their son alone.

“I usually leave him home behind my fiance’s back (no judgment please!)” she wrote.

On the particular day in question, the mum admits she wanted to stop by the shops to buy lunch at her favourite cafe.

“Since I’m pregnant I was craving this specific place in the mall,” she said. “My son’s lunch was in the oven and I figured that by the time it was ready, I’d be home…My son is potty trained and just plays games on his iPad/watches TV.”

While she was out, her fiance returned home early from work to discover their son alone in the house with the oven on, prompting him to send her a strongly worded text…

A Difference Of Opinion

After receiving a string of angry messages from her fiance, the mum said she believed he was overreacting.

“I feel degraded and belittled over nothing,” she said. “A 5 year old is perfectly capable of fending for himself for an hour. I’m honestly about to pack my bags and never let my son see his father again as well as when this baby is born. I would rather be single than spoken to this way.”

We’re pretty sure the wrong parent is playing the victim here – we’d be absolutely furious if we discovered that our other half had left a five-year-old at home while they went to pick up lunch!

Pregnancy isn’t easy, and finding time to get everything done with children in tow is always a challenge, but leaving your child at home alone with the oven on is completely unacceptable! This mum needs to sort out her priorities…

What age do you think children can be left home alone? Share your thoughts in the comments.

  • There are so many variables! Where do you live? Is it a safe neighbourhood? Do you know your neighbours well (not just a hi over the fencr) do they have a way of contacting you? What’s their maturity level? I don’t think there is a set age I’d use.


  • Omg. It’s sometimes crossed my mind for a brief second but i have never, and will never leave my child home alone when they are young. So much could happen. What if something happens to you. Also nowadays you can shop online etc or get a babysitter. I think the Mum was being selfish.


  • No way! That is not okay! 15 minutes maybe but an hour? And stopping to buy lunch? With the oven on??


  • I would sometimes leave my boys alone while I popped to the shop to get something for lunch. We live in a rural area so I never had to worry about traffic or anything like that. I certainly wouldn’t leave a 5 year old on his own for more than a couple of minutes and that would only be if I was hanging the washing on the line. What is she going to do when her new baby arrives. Leave the 5 year old to babysit? If I lived in the city my youngest would have to be at least 12 and responsible before I’d leave him alone but I’d be panicking the whole time till I got back to them. She is definitely in the wrong and I think she needs to grow up herself


  • I am not comfortable leaving my 10 and 8 year old sons together home alone (and they are rather mature), I would never leave my 5 year old there too with them. The furthest I have ventured out while leaving my eldest 2 home along (I leave my mobile with them so they can call dad, and always call my husband to let him know what is going on) is up to the train station to pick up my husband. The max i have left them form 15 minutes. Leaving a 5 year old home alone with an oven on is a big no no. What if the food in side burnt and caught on fire, a 5 year old wouldn’t know what to do or even notice it if they were engrossed in their device.


  • I always think, what would happen to my child if i left him at home and then something awful happened to me? I might be in an awful accident and be taken to hospital and not be able to tell anyone that i have a child at home. I know it’s so tempting to quickly nip out to get some bananas – a job that will take 5 minutes, but if I’m confident that my child could pick up a phone and ring someone if i don’t return home, then i am not leaving them home by themself. I think maybe at age 10 i could leae them alone for short periods.


  • This is not okay. And adding a turned-on oven in the mix. You never know what can or might happen. Does a 5 year old know how to react in an emergency? How to or when to call 000? It can put stress on the child too. I’m not sure at what age it is suitable, but definitely not at 5. And somewhere she knew this… lying to her partner meant she knew deep down it was wrong.


  • Five years old I don’t think so even a ten year old can be irresponsible. She did the wrong thing!


  • Not only would I NOT let a 5yo be home alone, but the oven on as well?

    I wouldn’t even have the oven on if NO ONE was home. What if you were delayed at the shops? You would come home to a burnt down house!!!


  • What age to leave a child? Every child is different. Some 18 year olds can’t be trusted! Each country has its rules doesn’t it? You have to abide by them or will come under scrutiny of child protection services… and if the child is hurt then you’d have that tragedy because you weren’t there. Of course we need rules but I do think that some children in some situations can manage even though they are strictly ‘too young’. Yet I also see double standards – plenty of ‘very young’ kids make their own way to school etc. and that seems acceptable to the community, but not letting them play at home.


  • Wow – this lady needs to be educated on the welfare of young children – there are too many hazards in a house to contemplate leaving a child this young alone.


  • I think 5 year old kid is too young to leave alone.Shopping not easy to do in hurry.But she might have a reason.


  • Hopefully her and her partner have worked this out together in the end. Yes kids are hard and I understand wanting to go without the son as kids can take ages to get ready but there’s a difference with actually doing it. Plus the partner had a right to be upset as it’s his child too.


  • There are probably other ‘different’ parenting decisions that this mum is making, if this is the issue that has come out.


  • I’ve read this before. It’s hard to believe that she would rather child neglect and endangerment than get her son ready, and the excuse of being pregnant? My second pregnancy was excruciating, but it never stopped me getting my (then) 2 year old ready to go out! I gave birth yesterday and was still doing things for both my children prior to going to hospital.


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