The kids get home from school, and every day you excitedly ask, ‘How was your day’, only to get a one-word response. Sigh.

It’s frustrating for any parent, but especially if your little one has only just started school and you’re just itching to know how their day has been! But there’s a really good reason why kids find this one question so difficult to answer, and there are simple ways to help them open up about what they’ve been up to at school.

Child and family therapist Dr Siggie Cohen has an uber popular TikTok account, where she shares invaluable info on parenting, including how to get your kids to open up after their school day. She know’s just how disappointing it can be when you ask, “How was school today,” only to met with “I don’t know,” “Fine,” or “I forgot”.

@parenting.with.dr.siggie #parentingtips #positiveparenting #realparentingmoments #parentlife #realparenthood #backtoschool ♬ original sound – Parenting.With.Dr.Siggie

As Dr Cohen explains, while you’re desperate to hear how their day was, your child has just ended a long day, full of effort and that question is too big, too general for them to respond to.

“So instead, ask SPECIFIC ones,” Dr Cohen suggests.

Questions like:

  • “During snack time, who did you sit next to?”
  • “Did your teachers say something funny today?”
  • “Was anyone in class upset today?”

Dr Cohen says this helps your child break down their big experience in a more detailed and balanced way.

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Is your child an open book after school, or does it take some effort to get them to talk? Let us know in the comments below. 

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  • …….and then when they become teenagers it all changes again. They either want to tell you everything or completely go into their caves.


  • I agree and think it is just a matter of asking different questions instead of the same old ” how was your day?”.


  • Ask things like “I wonder what your friends are having for lunch today”. Often they can’t wait to tell you when they get home. Starts the conversation rolling.


  • I find my kids always want to have a chat right at bed time, I guess they feel safe and secure, I enjoy our little chats at this time and learn lots.


  • I have had trouble with my son not wanting to talk about his day when he gets home and I out it down to being tired some of the time but maybe more directed questions will help. Thank you


  • Love this article. We always ask ” What was the best part of your day?” Having said that none of my kids ( except maybe my teenager atm) need to be pushed to talk. They’d all talk under water with a bag full of marbles. My biggest issue is getting them to take turns or to finish what they are saying and let someone else have a turn haha


  • I’ve always asked pointed questions but my kids are also happy to tell me about their day, even when I don’t ask. My middle child used to go into details of each activity, like when he made/decorated biscuits in kindy, I got the exact step by step set of instructions. Some days they only want to tell me one to two things and that’s alright as well.


  • It is my favourite part of the day, the open conversation regarding school and the memories they are making


  • Omg that is what we need at the moment


  • I’ve been trying this technique and it’s interesting some of the coversations that we’ve had at dinner time and what I’m finding out about the kids and school. Ask the right questions and my kids want to tell me everything!


  • Love this


  • Oh how I wish my son would tell me about his day! He doesn’t like to share and when he does he just makes things up.


  • I used to ask my boys what they did at school and did they have a good time. They were always happy to tell me what they did and who they played with at recess.


  • I always enjoy asking and hearing about my child’s day.


  • My child is an open book and used to share with me EVERY detail of his day at school… and then repeat it to his Dad when he came home!


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