So your baby or child has been at their day care for a few months now and they just haven’t taken to it.
You may notice they are unhappier at home, continue to scream or cling to you at drop off, don’t engage with the other kids or staff, or have become more withdrawn.
You’ve probably decided your baby hates daycare.
It’s tough to make a decision to pull them out, especially if you’re a busy working parent. There are times when it may be necessary but before you do so, it’s important to work out what’s going on exactly.
Try to determine the cause of why your child hates daycare
Is it the centre, a specific carer, maybe another child, or separation anxiety? Depending on the root cause, there may be strategies that you and the centre can implement.
Sometimes a child just won’t settle into their daycare environment.
All the other kids might be thriving there, so it’s not necessarily a bad environment, just not the right one for your child.
If the centre can’t help make the necessary adjustments (their teaching style could be too rigid or too carefree for your child), you may need to move them elsewhere.
There could be a problem with a daycare teacher or another child
This can also be tricky but see what the centre manager recommends.
They may have strategies they can put in place such as making another room teacher your child’s primary caregiver, or if it’s another child causing yours grief, perhaps they can keep the children separated.
If your child is being bullied the centre should have very clear policies about how this will be dealt with as it should not be tolerated.
Your child may be suffering from separation anxiety
Again the centre can probably make recommendations on how to deal with this or advise when this developmental phase is likely to pass.
If it never does, you may need to consider moving them elsewhere as it’s likely to be the environment.
At the end of the day, you’ll do the best you can and you will need to take your cues from your child.
After all, no one in your family is gong to be happy if your child isn’t.
The pain of finding alternative arrangements that your child responds well to is going to be worth it long term.
Consider alternatives such as a nanny-share arrangement (whereby you and another family share the cost of a nanny), a mummy-nanny arrangement (when a mum takes care of her own child as well as yours), or family daycare (typically capped at four children).
These types of environments are often less stressful and overwhelming because there simply isn’t as much going on.
Have you experienced similar issues with your children at Day Care? How did you resolve the issues, please share in the comments below.
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