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November 8, 2018

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It’s hard to know if it’s better to tell your kids or let them figure it out for themselves.

Christmas without Santa is almost impossible to imagine when you’re a child. There’s something about waking up as a kid on Christmas morning to find your presents under the tree that is completely magical. At some point though, the magic fades a little bit and Santa becomes a thing of the past. So at what point should you tell your children the truth? Or should you let them figure it out for themselves when they’re ready?

Knowledge Is Power

Parenting expert Dr Justin Coulson spoke to the Daily Mail Australia, revealing the ideal time to have the conversation with your children. “In my experience, kids get curious between the ages of five and seven. It’s a constant topic of conversation and like anything that is supposed to be a secret: knowledge is power. The right time to tell your child is as soon as they ask. If they’re old enough and curious enough to question, then they’re old enough to know the truth.”

While we think Dr Coulson is right on some level, we can’t help feeling that five is just a little young to lose the innocence and magic of Christmas…

How To Break The News

If you do want to be honest with your kids as soon as they ask, then there are two recommended ways you can go about it. The first is simply to be upfront and tell them the truth, without any sugar coating or uncertainty. If you think that approach might be a little too confronting, then we think asking your child to think about the logistics of Santa is a gentle way to lead them to the answer. If they discover the truth themselves this way, then great, and if not, maybe they just aren’t ready to know.

It’s always a good idea to remind your child that even if they don’t believe in Santa anymore, not to tell other children. Even if your child is ready to know, it’s not for you or them to decide when other kids should find out.

What age do you think children should stop believing in Santa? Tell us in the comments.

  • I think this varies from child to child. My parents never told us, we worked it out on our own but have always “kept the magic alive” for all the younger ones. It males for such a special and magical christmas

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  • My son was 8. He was very mature and he questions everything. His mind is very scientifically driven and even as an 8 year old has very strong views about this world. I think it all depends on the child. I see myself not telling Mr 7 for a lot longer as his world is still needing the magic.

    Even myself don’t parent my children the same so this will always be parents choice and knowing what age is right

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  • I was going on 9 when a neighbour told me there was no Santa…..but I never told my parents I knew until I was 12……got an extra 3 years of pressies lol

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  • It would be alot harder to keep it from them in this day and age.

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  • My children just went along with the idea of Santa so they wouldn’t miss out on presents. They were well aware by about 5 or 6, but also were nice enough not to spoil it for the younger ones till they became that age too.

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  • Dreading the day the Santa and Christmas magic is gone!

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  • this is a tricky one

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  • It’s difficult to know because all children are different. I just waited for my boys to ask me the question then I just asked them what they thought. Mostly they didn’t care either way but they knew not to tell anyone else.

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  • This is a tough one! I only just told my youngest now within the last few months and she is 8, she was still so innocent and believed when she questioned it at a younger age that I couldn’t bring myself to tell her so I answered her question with a question to avoid lying!

    This time a few months ago she asked me straight out and I told her the truth, even though I think she knew deep down he wasn’t real the confirmation of it did upset her a bit and she was shocked but handled it well. I made sure she knew not to say anything to the other children because some may still believe and it’s not nice to ruin it for them.

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  • I have no idea when I will tell mine. I don’t to tell them too early but I don’t want them to find out at school like I did as I remember being so sad

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  • this one is so hard !

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  • Just follow your gut instinct. A parent knows their child the best.

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  • I loved the magic of Christmas and we held onto it as long as possible. We told our son when he was 11, before he headed to High School. He has Aspergers and we knew he’d fight to the death for something he believes in so we broke the news. It wasn’t earth shattering or upsetting to him. In fact, he loved thinking back to all the times over the years we’d explained away the reindeers, food for Santa, etc.

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  • It’s hard as the magic goes with the belief each child would be different…

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  • I personally think 5-7 is a bit young to stop believing but it would vary from child to child as they mature at different rates.

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