Why does it really bother you if boys don’t like sports?

Kerry Foreman, is a Mum, Psychotherapist, Writer and Speaker. She writes for Parenting Today and explains why this one question really bugs her constantly.

Kerry explains, “My son not only doesn’t play sports……he doesn’t watch them either. GASP!! I know, it’s a tragedy, right?”

“The world has no questions for him except for, “so….do you play basketball?”

“REALLY? This 13-year-old boy who could change the world has to constantly answer why he isn’t interested in sports. Can’t we do better than that?

The looks I get from other mothers when I say that I gave him the choice at age 11 whether to play sports or not…..is one of reprehension.

How dare I guide and support instead of mould him in the image that is expected for our boys.

I get it, I really do…our boys are to follow a plan set out for success, right? We believe that you get them involved in sports, they play through high school, gaining popularity and acceptance along the way. This quells our fears. Society has instilled a fear in us that if our boy doesn’t play sports, then he is uninvolved. He is clearly sitting around doing nothing.

The self-worth gained from a parent who says “you are enough” is valuable beyond measure. That parent opens the door to more. That parent learns more about their child and more about themselves than ever before.

We owe our boys more than funneling them into a system they don’t fit into. If your boy isn’t an athlete … guess what. It’s okay. They are going to be okay.

You are enough, and so are they.”

Read Kerry’s full post here.

Kerry’s post attracted quite a response on the Today Show Facebook page with over 1400 shares and 10,000 reactions.

I could not agree with Kerry more on this.  I have two boys. One is passionate about EVERYTHING sport. He can not get enough of it.

While the other one just shrugs and turns up his nose to any offers of joining a sporting club. He just doesn’t have the desire. While he is still only young, at eight, I continue to offer the opportunities, but in no way do we force him to join any club just because it is what boys should do.

Nope. Sorry. That is not my decision to make at all.

Give him a musical instrument and he is happy. For now anyway.  Whether or not that changes time will tell.

Share your comments below.

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  • it is up to the child and their personal likes! they don’t have to play sports but can keep active in other ways. great post


  • We’re at this stage now, trying to decide whether to enrol my son in a sport. But also teh freedom of our weekends is great too.


  • What is the problem with him not being into sports. He probably has other interests.


  • My son is 11 year old, doesn’t play a sport and isn’t interested in watching sport either.
    What I don’t understand is that Kerry Foreman tells that her son has to constantly answer why he isn’t interested in sports… I never ever experienced pressure or questions from others about my son not playing or watching sport (what is of course a good thing).


  • Although I think it is great to join in with a team sport, if you are not interested then you shouldn’t force the child to join it. He/she will find their niche in life without sport. It is up to them.


  • There is plenty of ways to get some exercise besides team sports. Maybe he is also worried about injuries but hasn’t said anything. There is far too many injuries in sport, especially team sport.
    Why they have to tackle, push and throw each to the ground beats me. Ball sports should be just that. There is less injuries from kids driving gokarts than there is on the football or soccer field.
    At least they have head protection and aren’t hitting each other.


  • I beleive all children she be in some kind of sport no matter their gender. In a sedentary world they need to stay active, it also gives them another social activity to hone social skills. But whether that sport is dancing, swimming, soccer, yoga, gymnastics or rugby is up to the child (no matter the gender).
    Once the child is older, say highschool if they decide to persue other intrests exclusively then that is also fine.
    My kid does singing, sign language, japanese drumming and gymnastics. All of this was her choice we actually had to say no to flute because she wouldn’t have enough time. We only enrolled her in gymnastics, the rest she does through her school extracurriculars.


  • Yes it is okay but sports do play an important part through your young and adult life.


  • The sports it’s very important for kids and teenagers


  • Broadly I agree, but at the same time it’s a good way to keep teenagers active, regardless of gender.


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