This woman thought she was being helpful but instead, she got viciously flamed for calling her family members fat.
It all started when she posted to the Mumsnet forum asking whether it would be reasonable to offer her ‘fat’ family members advice on ‘nutrition and keeping fit.’
She said that in the past she too had been overweight ‘even bordering on fat’.
But then added that “with dedication and commitment to diet and exercise I managed to get on top of it.”
“So I do know what I’m talking about,” she said.
My Family Members Are FAT!
“Yes I know some will probably flame me for using the word ‘fat’ but I’m concerned about some family members,” she said.
“The mum is 5ft 4in with three daughters aged between 18 and 22 who are all a similar height. She and the eldest both take medication for high blood pressure and the other two daughters are also heading that way,” she continued.
The poster said she was concerned that the mum thought it was ‘great’ that she and her daughters were all the same size as they could then wear eachother’s clothes.
“What bugs me is they are totally clueless about health topics and diet and the mum has fed the girls crap diets all of their lives high in salt, fat and sugar.”
She then let loose and the insults flew:
Curvy Not Fat
“The worst part is she buries her head in the sand saying they’re luckily not a fat family but are all just curvy girls and that it runs in the family along with high blood pressure! The fact is they are all FAT and it’s self inflicted and unfair on themselves,” she ranted.
“The girls are huge now with double chins and have no waists but, hey, they take great care with make-up, tan, hair and nails, so that makes it okay then?” she added.
She was told by her mum not to offer any advice as the family members would get “very offended if anyone ever suggested they were even slightly overweight”.
She then signed off with the question:
“Are people who are that size truly happy with how they look and feel and do they believe they’re not fat but have curves instead?”
Let’s just say that the replies were not pretty.
“What a spiteful post,” said one shocked commenter.
“Concerned people take action to help. Bitchy people post about it in derogatory terms on the internet,” said another.
“Your contempt for those young women oozes out of your post. They won’t want your advice, it’s probably fairly obvious what you think of them anyway,” said another insulted commenter.
Don’t Do It!
“Not your place to offer advice,” another agreed. “You will come off badly, no matter how you do it. I’m that size, I know I’m fat, I also know what I need to do to not be. I don’t need unsolicited advice and I guarantee you it won’t go well if you offer it to them.”
“I’m sure they’re a lot happier with themselves than you are,” one comment read. “In my opinion, only people aware that there is something really lacking in them as a person are as spiteful as you are being here.”
You Could Do With Some Sweetening Up
“Have a bit of cake. You look like you could do with sweetening up,” said another.
“Some people are naturally bigger than others. I think you need to take a biiiig step back and concentrate on your own health,” one indignant commenter said.
“I’m fat, but I can lose weight,” one woman posted. “People who are unkind about others have a problem that’s more difficult to shift.”
Well, the poster certainly hit a nerve! We don’t think she’ll be mentioning the ‘f’ word again.
Would you ever tell a friend or a family that they were fat or unhealthy? Tell us in the comments below.