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Like many others before me, I experienced bullying in my high school years. For many years after the bullying occurred I suffered from low self-worth and feelings of not being good enough!

This continued on when I became a Mother and these feelings were exacerbated as I then had my innocent children looking at me for guidance. How could I guide these children the way they deserved if I myself was struggling with these feelings of inferiority?

After a few years of trying to get better and be okay as a Mum, I decided enough was enough. I needed to break the cycle that this school bullying had set up for me many years ago.

Hence I went on my self-discovery journey using Kinesiology. Through this journey I was able to understand and address those underlying emotions that were keeping the bullying alive and real in my current life, like the low self-worth and feelings of not being good enough. Once I was able to improve myself on the inside, I was then able to once and for all let go of the bullying experience and all that resulted from it!

As a result of this experience I have become passionate to help other Mums let go of their own bullying experiences and to help prevent bullying in our children.

No child, or adult, should ever need to experience bullying on any level. Bullying is something that is preventable!

Here are 3 ways to prevent bullying for your child:

1. Deal with your personal issues: it is important to get Mum feeling confident and in control of her life first, which will then flow down to her children.

2. Create empathy: model and teach your children to be empathetic and how to recognize emotions that are being experienced by those around them.

3. Communication: keep the lines of communication open with your children, so they are comfortable with talking to you about what is really going on at school and on social media.

It starts in the home environment and it is never too late to start! It is even more important these days to help our children with bullying as it has become easier for children to bully others through the faceless social media.

To find out more on how to help prevent bullying in your child, contact Debbie for a free tip sheet calledThe 3 Ways to Prevent Bullying for Your Child.

  • I was bullied at school in Primary School. Red hair and shyness didn’t help. Some of the kids used to punch and slap me until I fell over. One day one of the boys from my class decided to teach a couple of them a lesson and gave them a punch each. They left me alone after that and didn’t tackle him either.

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  • Wise words, thank you for sharing.

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  • Some great tips. Communication is key and being present in your child’s life. I noticed changes in my child and observed things during school drop off and pick up that alerted me to a possible problem. My son always tells me about his school day, so I made sure to listen and picked up on things then, too. My son knows he can always talk to us and we will help him through any problems and teach him how to deal with them. It worked in our case and he’s a much better person for it.

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  • Thank you for sharing the tips that helped you. My son and daughter-in-law’s middle child has had to put up with bullying through year 6 and she handled it exceptionally well because her Mum and Dad were there for her. They asked what she wanted done and listened.

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  • Important indeed ! Glad there are more and more anti bullying programs ran at the schools. Sure think it’s important to have an open communication at home and kids that always can talk about their feelings (and for that we must have dealt with our own issues indeed), not only in the case they’re bullied themselves, but also to help them reaching out and stand up for those they see are being bullied.

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  • Bullying is so hard. I was bullied as a child and often it makes me anxious about certain confronting situations. It’s something I dread that my child would ever have to go through. I wish Bullying never existed.

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  • Hope this list will help many get over the effects of bullying and perhaps even stop the bullies from starting.

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  • If only this list of tips could prevent bullying for everyone! It’s so prevalent and has such a devastating effect on our young kids

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  • So important! Really interesting article! Thanks for sharing this!

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  • I had two of my kids bullied at school. One would vomit not long after I left the school to drive home. The school would call me back to take her home. the other child in a different grade (still in infants) would go white just before morning recess. Her teacher noticed her colour and asked her if she was ok or sick. She was stressing that out in the playground was where the bullying was happening. Her class mates were nasty with hurtful words. They would tell their classmates who they could and could not play with. It took me a while to get this sorted out but not before I had kids back and forth to the doctor who was at a loss as to what was going on with their health. The school office ladies joked that maybe I would be better to home school them. This made me mad and I eventually had to take the kids out of that school. The bully program only works if you can identify the culprits and the playground teacher is aware of what’s happening. It look me a long time until I could get my kids to talk about what was really going on. When I moved them out of that school it was like a light switch turned on… they were happy, healthy kids who enjoyed school again.

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  • Raising an emotionally and socially intelligent child is also part of the way to prevent children taking up bullying behaviours. Bullies were somebody’s baby once too and they have esteem issues too.

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  • Good advice.

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  • Bullying is a terrible thing.

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  • I hate bullying and the hurt it brings. I hope my children never get bullied.

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  • interesting and helpful read thanks for sharing with us

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