June 30, 2021


Being a mum is really hard, you have kids to look after, bills to pay, things to clean and again, kids to look after.

It can be hard to find a way to be happy during all of this, but it is possible. Here are six things that happy mums don’t do.

1. Hope for the perfect day

The perfect day is the elusive holy grail that all mothers strive for. But why? What does the perfect day really mean? If all of the dishes are done, the house is immaculate, dinner was delicious and you didn’t have bills to pay, it still wouldn’t feel like the ‘perfect day’. Motherhood is about refining and learning, trying new things and teaching your kids. You can never as a mother experience the perfect day. So wake up every morning knowing that it is a real day, enjoy the small moments and victories, and don’t get hung up on trying to make things perfect.

2. Gossip about other mums

Gossiping is one of the worst things you can do to improve your happiness. If you are gossiping about other mums, all you are doing is comparing yourself to others and trying to validate yourself by invalidating another. Everyone is different, don’t be the mum that has to point that out.

3. Fight every battle

Many mothers spend every moment of their lives fighting with their children or partner over trivial matters. Far too many mothers don’t know how to properly pick their battles. Let go sometimes, you will cause yourself far more stress trying to fight small matters that won’t add any value to your life. Let things go, enjoy being alive and just try to laugh at the small things.

4. Forget who you are

You’re a mother now, but you aren’t just a mother. You have dreams and ambitions. Don’t get caught up in the whirlwind of motherhood and realise you haven’t achieved your dreams because you spent every waking moment of your life on your children. Set aside an hour a day to learn an instrument, learn to paint, learn a language. Make sure you realise dreams you have always had, you will thank yourself for it.

5. Worry about making the wrong choices.

We all make mistakes. Being a mother doesn’t make you immune to this. If you do something wrong, don’t get hung up on it, so many mothers have done the same thing as you. remember that life is a lesson, and the moment you stop learning, the moment you stop living.

6. Base self-worth on others opinions

Right now, someone doesn’t like you, and nothing you do about it will make that change. Don’t get hung up on that one negative person. If you constantly judge yourself the same way other people see you, you’re never going to be happy with yourself. Instead, be happy being you, be happy that you have beautiful children who love you to no end. Judge yourself on what you do, and not what others think.

What advice can you give to other mothers to be happier in everyday life?

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  • Don’t worry about anyone else s judgements,. you can’t control them.


  • Love your children and make sure they know just how much you love them. Listen, talk and share experiences. Let them know you are there for them and they can tell you anything. We are all learning as we go and every child is different. Except that you will make mistakes and so will they. Learn from them and move on. There is no such thing as a perfect parent only those with perfect intentions.


  • There is no such thing as a perfect parent. The internet is so guilty of putting extra pressure on parents to get it right allll the time.
    Please remember that people don’t usually post about their bad days, they are not perfect parents either and that’s ok.
    What you do is enough.


  • Be reflective.


  • Never compare yourself to others


  • I find myself doing so many of these things you really have to remind yourself


  • Very good reminders. When I was uni I had one lecturer say “it’s not an emergency until you have to call 000” that same method should be applied to all areas of life. Sometime we do have to just let things be what they are!


  • Sending this link to a close friend who always puts way too much pressure on herself!


  • A very good minder indeed


  • These are all good suggestions to take on board.


  • And also – don’t carry the burden alone if you don’t have to. Share the mental load with your partner.


  • I have been telling my husband for years to pick his battles some are just not worth the stress


  • I have up on hoping for the perfect day a long time ago! I think I do however need to learn to pick my battles. I feel like I’m constantly arguing with my husband and children and it really gets me down.

    • Yes, picking your battles is so important !


  • No one should be doing this and ruining their happiness. I like some of the other digestions and comments too


  • I always didn’t pay heed to other people’s views and opinions as long as kids are healthy no worries


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