Being a mum is really hard, you have kids to look after, bills to pay, things to clean and again, kids to look after.
It can be hard to find a way to be happy during all of this, but it is possible. Here are six things that happy mums don’t do.
1. Hope for the perfect day
The perfect day is the elusive holy grail that all mothers strive for. But why? What does the perfect day really mean? If all of the dishes are done, the house is immaculate, dinner was delicious and you didn’t have bills to pay, it still wouldn’t feel like the ‘perfect day’. Motherhood is about refining and learning, trying new things and teaching your kids. You can never as a mother experience the perfect day. So wake up every morning knowing that it is a real day, enjoy the small moments and victories, and don’t get hung up on trying to make things perfect.
2. Gossip about other mums
Gossiping is one of the worst things you can do to improve your happiness. If you are gossiping about other mums, all you are doing is comparing yourself to others and trying to validate yourself by invalidating another. Everyone is different, don’t be the mum that has to point that out.
3. Fight every battle
Many mothers spend every moment of their lives fighting with their children or partner over trivial matters. Far too many mothers don’t know how to properly pick their battles. Let go sometimes, you will cause yourself far more stress trying to fight small matters that won’t add any value to your life. Let things go, enjoy being alive and just try to laugh at the small things.
4. Forget who you are
You’re a mother now, but you aren’t just a mother. You have dreams and ambitions. Don’t get caught up in the whirlwind of motherhood and realise you haven’t achieved your dreams because you spent every waking moment of your life on your children. Set aside an hour a day to learn an instrument, learn to paint, learn a language. Make sure you realise dreams you have always had, you will thank yourself for it.
5. Worry about making the wrong choices.
We all make mistakes. Being a mother doesn’t make you immune to this. If you do something wrong, don’t get hung up on it, so many mothers have done the same thing as you. remember that life is a lesson, and the moment you stop learning, the moment you stop living.
6. Base self-worth on others opinions
Right now, someone doesn’t like you, and nothing you do about it will make that change. Don’t get hung up on that one negative person. If you constantly judge yourself the same way other people see you, you’re never going to be happy with yourself. Instead, be happy being you, be happy that you have beautiful children who love you to no end. Judge yourself on what you do, and not what others think.
What advice can you give to other mothers to be happier in everyday life?