Surrogacy, it’s a subject that is often avoided.
I want to get our story out there, I want women who are struggling with the fact that they may never carry their own child to have hope and know that they are not alone.
I have an older sister, she’s been through a lot as she was born with Hershprungs Disease. From the day she was born, she’s had multiple surgeries, but she has never let this get her down and that’s why she’s the strongest person I know and someone I look up to. I am 23 years old, a mother to 2 beautiful children and a wife to an amazing man. A few years ago my sister made the big decision to start her own little family with her husband. After multiple rounds of failed IVF, hospital visits and heartache, she was informed that she could not carry her own child. As you can imagine, this broke her and her husband’s hearts.
After thinking about it for months and asking my husband what he thought, who’s response was always ‘if you are happy I am happy,’
I decided to offer to be my sisters surrogate, after all this was going to be 9 months out of my life to give my sister a life time of happiness and love. I couldn’t imagine not having my children in my life.
A few months later, using my sister and brother-in-law’s embryo, we had one failed transfer resulting in miscarriage, but the second transfer was successful and we were pregnant! I’ll never forget the look on my sister and brother-in-law’s faces when they saw their baby’s heart beating away for the first time! A few weeks later, I found out I was carrying a baby girl, a gender reveal party was on the cards and when they saw those pink balloons float up out of the box they both cried happy tears; another moment I’ll never forget.
The pregnancy was all smooth sailing and full of amazing and happy times. Aimee and I spoke on the phone every day, but the best phone call I’ll always remember is when I rang Aimee at 3am on the 18th of March and asked her, ‘are you ready?’
Even though it was close to the due date, I don’t think you’re ever ‘ready’, but the moment they laid eyes on their baby girl I could tell that they forgot about all of the heart ache, sad times and struggles as they soaked up this little miracle named Francesca Louise.
My niece is now 5 months old and is a happy, healthy and very beautiful little girl, my sister and brother-in-law are proud parents and loving every minute of parenthood, and my children love their new cousin. I’ll forever cherish the amazing moments I shared with my sister, but my favourite is the moment I handed Francesca to Jake and Aimee for the first time, because I got to see them in a very real and very raw moment as they fell in love with their daughter.
I have since been asked over and over again if I am okay, how I am coping and if I am sad that I couldn’t keep the baby. I am more than okay, I got to give my sister the gift of life, I gained another beautiful niece.
I got to see my sister get closure after a lot of heart ache and I now get to watch my sister be a mummy (an amazing mummy at that). Surrogacy sure is amazing!
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