An expecting mum has revealed the hurtful comments made to her by a cashier, after she explained she was having a c-section.
It prompted an outpouring of support from other mums, who also shared the upsetting and ridiculous comments they’ve endured after giving birth via c-section.
“I have my second c-section scheduled for Monday,” the mum explained. “I was at Target grabbing the last goodies for a nurse’s basket. The cashier asked when I was due, I answered. She looked me in the face and said, ‘Well now, that’s cheating!'”
The mum explained that high blood pressure and reduced amniotic fluid means it’s unsafe for her to go any longer without giving birth.
“They have been holding off as long as they can. I wanted a VBAC. My doctors supported a VBAC. But guess what? Even if it were an elective decision IT IS STILL VALID. IT IS NOT CHEATING.”
Her story was inundated with responses from other mums who have been subjected to equally shameful comments:
“I had an appointment for my son this week, he’s eight, and I was asked if his birth was ‘normal’ or ‘c-section’. I was so pissed!” (goldlion0806)
“One of my friends (late 30s) told me (early 20s) that she’s still a mother even though she had a c-section. I was confused and didn’t even know that people thought this way? What an ugly thing to say to someone.” (Toebeans404)
“I was once told by another mother online that I should lose custody since I’m not mature enough to give birth naturally, I’m not mature enough to look after a baby.” (mimiwatz)
“I’ve learned to shut up about my experience cos no one would validate and respect what I had gone through because I ‘didn’t feel ‘anything’. Comments like these kept me away from any mum group even real life friends who are mums.” (sylviaplath11_)
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