An expecting mum has revealed the hurtful comments made to her by a cashier, after she explained she was having a c-section.

It prompted an outpouring of support from other mums, who also shared the upsetting and ridiculous comments they’ve endured after giving birth via c-section.

“I have my second c-section scheduled for Monday,” the mum explained. “I was at Target grabbing the last goodies for a nurse’s basket. The cashier asked when I was due, I answered. She looked me in the face and said, ‘Well now, that’s cheating!'”

The mum explained that high blood pressure and reduced amniotic fluid means it’s unsafe for her to go any longer without giving birth.

“They have been holding off as long as they can. I wanted a VBAC. My doctors supported a VBAC. But guess what? Even if it were an elective decision IT IS STILL VALID. IT IS NOT CHEATING.”

Her story was inundated with responses from other mums who have been subjected to equally shameful comments:

“I had an appointment for my son this week, he’s eight, and I was asked if his birth was ‘normal’ or ‘c-section’. I was so pissed!” (goldlion0806)

“One of my friends (late 30s) told me (early 20s) that she’s still a mother even though she had a c-section. I was confused and didn’t even know that people thought this way? What an ugly thing to say to someone.” (Toebeans404)

“I was once told by another mother online that I should lose custody since I’m not mature enough to give birth naturally, I’m not mature enough to look after a baby.” (mimiwatz)

“I’ve learned to shut up about my experience cos no one would validate and respect what I had gone through because I ‘didn’t feel ‘anything’. Comments like these kept me away from any mum group even real life friends who are mums.” (sylviaplath11_)

Have you ever experienced any ‘stigma’ around having a c-section? Let us know in the comments below.

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  • I don’t know why people feel they have the right to comment on things that are of utterly no concern to them!


  • Definitely NOT cheating. My babies wouldn’t be here without this option.


  • C section or natural birth, Mum is a mum. A mother of the child. Stranger or even non strangers can say anything, we can’t change their opinions but do not let that make us down. God see us as a mother whatever people say and how we deliver our baby. We still a mother as we hold and raise them in our womb.


  • What ignorant people!! They obviously have no idea that a C-Section is often a necessity so that medically the baby and the mother are healthy and delivered successfully. I can remember one baby delivered by C-section after the mother had a very long labour but couldn’t deliver because the baby was 12lb. 2oz. It would never have been born naturally!


  • No matter how your baby comes out, as long as it’s healthy and you’re ok
    Who cares x


  • Having 3 c sections myself, it’s Definitely not cheating


  • As a C Section Mumma, I will never be told that I cheated. I spent an exhausting 3 days in active labour with no choice but to head down the path to safely deliver my baby girl by caesarean. The traumatic experience was certainly not an easy way out and the recovery was just as bad.


  • Having given birth both vaginally and by c-section, I know which one I would prefer and anyone who thinks a c-section is easier and you are cheating by having one needs their head read. Of course, once you have had a c-section then subsequent births are supposed to be by c-section also.
    I am forever grateful that my next child had no intention of waiting for the surgeon to get to the hospital and allowed me to have a further natural birth.


  • Some people can’t give birth vaginally so how it is cheating if their body doesn’t dilate?


  • I’ve never had a c-section but there’s no way I’d ever consider it “cheating” that’s absolutely ridiculous.. I can’t even imagine how painful the recovery from a C-section would be and then trying to look after a newborn as well…


  • Strangers need to keep their comments to themselves. C sections are far from cheating.


  • How rude of them to say that to you its none of there business


  • I would tell that stranger to f…..
    People say some weird things to pregnant and post party women. Just gotta brush it off or politely put them in their place so they don’t say it to the next person.
    I’ve never had a c section but from the sounds of it, recovery is much harder and longer so no its definitely not cheating


  • Some people are really ignorant and hurtful. Having C-sections is everything but, cheating., I would have given the cashier a mouthful. C-section is a major operation, both for mum and bub, can be lifesaving. I have had 2 c-sections, medically required, I know the procedures well, I know the agony/pain, the long road to recovery etc. I’d give anything to have had a natural birth, to see my daughter being born, but it wasn’t possible. I wish that mum well with her birth, recovery and the lovely future with her family. And that cashier, she wanna hope she never needs to have a c-section!


  • Wow. I had complex reasons for wanting a C-section with my twins, and one obstetrician supported me and one fought me all the way. (Turned out to be irrelevant as one twin died in utero at 38 weeks so I gave birth vaginally.) I just remember being so insulted by his assumption that vaginal births were automatically better.


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