Personally I don’t think it’s helpful to seek the advise of us who are basically strangers to her. You can see already the effect of her ex and his new wife sharing the topic with mutual people they both know who are now in her business messaging and calling her wanting to tell me their two cents on what she should do….add our opinions to it and you get totally confused

This is a difficult situation. I feel for her ex, but I wouldn’t be comfortable with it either.

Difficulty situation for the family. I agree with her, that’s her embryo too. I’d say no too. Shame her friends feel the need to pressure her!!

Tough one. Feel sorry for her ex, but, it is her embryo, her decision. As for all those friends sticking their nose in, it’s nothing to do with them, butt out.

So….if they use this embryo, it will be a full sibling to your son. That might be difficult if you aren’t the one raising this child. Especially as you are having such strong feelings against this now.

That’s tough. I do feel for the ex as his sperm seemed to be a rare miracle yet I don’t think using the embryo can be justified

Very awkward situation to be in. I dont believe anyone should be able to use the embryo.

I don’t think outsiders should be putting their input into the situation. If their owner of half said embryo has made her choice she should be pressured from others.

What a tricky situation. I feel for everyone involved. It is half the ex-husbands and half hers.
I’m not sure what I’d decide in this situation.

This is messy. It’s also nobody’s business but the two couples involved – and it does involve two couples. As someone who has endured IVF and used all of my embryos with the last being successful, I know I was not going to be comfortable sharing any of my embryos with anyone else if I was done. This is a whole other level of complicated and a decision should have been made at the time of divorcing to dispose of them. I think the ex should be re-tested and try his options. He managed to produce sperm last time and through ICSI, it can happen.

It’s her embryo too so i can understand why she feels this way. Its such a complicated issue that would make ehr feel like shes giving up her child

I think she’s totally right. This would be her child. She will be emotionally and physically tied to it for life. It is a huge thing to ask her to give up her child. And it WOULD be her child. Plus, it would be just weird for her and her new husband for her to effectively have another baby with her ex.

It’s horrible that the ex and his new partner have got others involved who are now trying to guilt trip and influence her. This is a hard enough decision and it only is the business of the 3 adults involved, no one else.
This is a decision she will have to live with for the rest of her life, so she has to take her time and weigh it up without additional pressuring.
Legally, the embryo belongs to her and her ex. No one else has the right to try and influence her.
I think it would be worth the ex trying to do fertility treatment with his new partner first. Meanwhile the ex wife I’m sure is considering how she would feel, were the situation reversed.
This will affect their future family relationships and interactions regardless of choice, but hopefully with time it can be resolved without additional drama.

Whilst I agree this maybe a tough decision for her this embryo was meant to be a child, probably would of been if they had of stayed together, and biologically it belongs to both of them. Having said that maybe she should look at it in the way what would she want if the roles were reversed and she couldn’t have more children I think she would probably asking him to gift it to her and anyway what else are they going to do with it bin it or give it away.

I know if it was me as hard as the idea of someone else raising my biological child would be I would still gift it to him and just ask to be an Auntie it rather than it never being born.

It’s a tricky one, I think if I were to do it I would want to be the mother as it’s my biological child. So I can see not wanting to give that up to someone else.

This is actually a really difficult decision.. I can definitely see this from both points of view..

It’s definitely a difficult decision to make. Has he tried again to see if they repeat the procedure for him? Also I can’t see how it could be their child when the DNA is from his ex-wife and himself. Could she more look on this as an adoption? I’m sure she wouldn’t want the embryo to be destroyed. I’m not sure what I’d do in her situation

This is a very tough decision that has to be made. I am not sure what I would do.

wow this is a difficult decision to make. I wonder what will happen to the embryo if she doesn’t hand it over. A child is meant to come of this and if his new wife is kind and they are amicable with each other then I tend to think it would be the right thing to hand it over. Glad it’s not me with this decision though.

Gee I can understand why you don’t want to adopt the embryo over to your ex and his new wife, BUT knowing it’s because of his no sperm and the rigmarole you went through to have a baby, it just seems a bit selfish. You have had other children since and you say, you and your son are still on good terms with your ex and your son loves his step mum. Don’t think of it as your embryo, think of it as a chance for friends. Good Luck