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A blogger is facing fierce backlash after sharing an Instagram post detailing how her sons photos don’t get as many likes on social media as pictures of his siblings.

Katie Bower, a 37-year-old mother of five based in Atlanta, Georgia, shocked her fans on Sunday when she discussed her son Weston’s photos from a ‘statistical point of view,’ explaining that ‘he wasn’t as popular with everyone out there.’

The post, which was shared in honor of Weston’s sixth birthday, started as a heartwarming tribute to the little boy but turned into a confession about how his pictures don’t get as many likes or comments from her 52,000 followers, shared Daily Mail.

‘Guys I am gonna be perfectly honest…Instagram never liked my Munchkin and it killed me inside,’ she wrote. ‘His photos never got as many likes. Never got comments.’

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Weston has an older brother, Will, and three younger siblings, LJ, Maxwell, and Ella, and according to his mom, people are the least responsive to his photos.


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‘From a statistical point of view, he wasn’t as popular with everyone out there,’ she said. ‘Maybe part of that was the pictures just never hit the algorithm right.

‘Part might be because he was “the baby” for a very short amount of time before LJ came along…and then Max and then Ella. And people like babies.”

‘I say all that because I want to believe that it wasn’t him…that it was on me,’ she explained. ‘My insufficiency caused this statistical deficit because obviously my Munch should get ALL the love and squinty eyes are totally adorable.

‘So can we do this right? Because I truly KNOW that my Munch deserves alllllll the likes…whether or not a stranger gives it to them.’

She ended her post by saying she is ‘thankful’ to know that no matter what other people think of her family, ‘they are 1000000000x better in real life than any tiny little picture could hold.’

It appears her posts have since been deleted.

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The reaction

The post received hundreds of comments with many finding her candid message to be ‘infuriating.’

‘You really think your kid is gonna look at how many likes his mom’s posts got about him and feel bad???’ one person asked. ‘You needa give this ig s**t up and get some help it’s warped your brain.’

‘This is horrific! The only thing that will give him a complex is you!!!!’ someone else commented. ‘Seriously re read this and listen to how it sounds! “Statistically not as good”! Dear god!!!!! Shocking!’

Katie later returned to the post to try to explain her reasoning for writing about Weston’s Instagram lacks, or lack thereof.

‘P.S. I wanted to clarify that I revealed this feeling because I know one day he will see the numbers and have to learn that his value is not in online approval,’ she wrote. ‘This is a hard lesson for anyone to learn and I’m thankful I have learned it.

‘I hope you all can be understanding and not take things out of context or believe that this in any way affects how I see or treat my children. All comments and well wishes I read to the birthday boy!’

Katie noted that she knows a lot of people aren’t going to understand where she is coming from because they ‘don’t have business accounts’ and ‘don’t run their business based on social media.’

‘It’s a lot of people who thought I needed him to be liked,’ the mom said of her most recent post about her son. ‘No, I don’t. I like him. Nothing is going to change that. He is just awesome. All of my kids are.

‘But kids are smart y’all, she added. ‘Kids know that there are likes on photos, and it’s very human nature to compare. And, so for me, my personal growth journey is teaching my kids that it doesn’t matter.’

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  • maybe she was trying for the sympathy “like” to try and make herself feel better

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  • Maybe it would be a better idea if she didn’t post pictures of her children online at all. They have no say of the digital footprint that she is creating on their behalf. And then inadvertently being judged by ‘likes’.

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  • If she is going to be upset amount comments or lack of, she shouldn’t be posting photos. When the children are old enough they may not be happy that their Mum has been making their photos public. She either hasn’t thought about that or doesn’t care.

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  • I have an instagram account for my dogs adventures and a bit of fun. I know one dog gets more likes and comments than the other. It’s interesting from a statistic perspective but I could only imagine the pressure on teens and children from the social realm validation. If anyone is interested in two aussie Pomeranians take a look @poms_squared

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  • This is sad! Needing likes from strangers for yourself and your children is just sad! Validation and approval is not needed from other people. Unfortunately this is the unpleasant side of social media. Children are more valuable than likes on social media!

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  • How pathetic that a person needs others approval.

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  • I use to follow a yoga mum that occasionally posted pics with her kids, more so the daughter than the son. She even specifically asked people to like and comment on the most recent post with him in it because he didn’t get as much Insta love as her daughter.
    I was sad for her son, not because he didn’t get “liked” as much but because his value was already being determined by social media likes at 7.

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  • Oh my gosh. Why do people feel the need to base their lives around how many likes a photo or a status gets? Don’t worry about it!


    • I agree with you! Just don’t understand the need and craving for approval and really why do people care so much? The psychology behind it is so very interesting,

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  • Just another pressure added to today youths! I can’t believe this Mum focused so much on such a irrelevant detail! It does not matter how many likes our children’s pictures get, it makes me happier knowing that these photos of my children will always be available even after I’m gone when I post them. There is no comparison needed at all.

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  • Because it’s all about how popular you are these days and how many IG likes you get ????????‍♀️. People need to be ok with not being everyone’s cup of tea – not that her adorable little boy wouldn’t be. But surely there are more important things in life?

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  • She Sees things from a statistical point of view,
    When I post a picture on facebook, I look to how many likes it has as well.
    We all like to be liked.
    The dangerous thing is when we depend our self esteem on the likes or dislikes of others. And concerning when we communicate this to our children.
    Hope she can show her gorgeous boy how much loved and liked he is.

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  • I think that children should not be used in this way. Maybe he may worry about the likes and comments later in life . For now I am sure he has more important things to worry about.

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  • She’s doing what she thinks is best for her family and I don’t think there is any value in attacking her for what she wrote.

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  • She shouldn’t have her children on any social media, and if her followers had any sense they’d Unfollow her.


    • I agree it’s her social media ..leave the children out of any of that stuff.

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  • Lady have facebook, snap chat, twitter, instagram what ever you like ‘For Your Self’ but keep the children OUT of them.

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