Why ladies, when it comes to our libido and our lack of sex-drive at different times in our lives do we not talk about it and try to rectify if? I mean orgasms and sex are great for health and wellbeing. They help with releasing happy hormones in our brains, make us feel relaxed, bring closeness in our relationship and can even be great exercise. Its like the ultimate awesome ride at a fun park!

I am here today to talk about it in a way you have probably never considered.

Generally, women don’t have a consistent high libido throughout their lives. We are more stimulated through our mind and soul than physically, so it takes a little more effort to get us in the mood and to achieve orgasm. Plus we just have so much going on in our busy lives that it doesn’t always make the top of your priority list. Although, I know a little secret that I am sure will make you prioritise it higher on your daily list!

The first ever vibrator for women was created in the early 1900’s. It was created for the doctors who were working with women suffering from Hysteria (basically sexual frustration). They began to get sore hands from over working them, helping women to achieve orgasm. Hysteria was one of the few conditions that doctors could treat successfully and it produced numbers of grateful women who returned faithfully and regularly. Unfortunately for the doctors, the treatment had a downside: achy, cramped fingers and hands. Chronic hand fatigue meant that doctors had trouble maintaining the treatment long enough to product the desired effects. Hello, vibrator!

Throughout history, the subject of women and their sexuality has been very diverse. Different cultures and religions have had completely different ideals on women and their desire for physical love-making. Until the 20th century, American and European physicians believed that women did not experience sexual desire or pleasure. This, as you can imagine, was leaving many ladies frustrated and led to many complaints to doctors of anxiety, sleeplessness, irritability and erotic fantasies.

All I can say is, Ladies, yes we do still suffer from Hysteria, although it is rarely spoken of these days! Knowing this can change your sex drive forever.

I can personally feel it coming on. There will be a day when, for no real reason, I am angry or annoyed with my partner. At the time something silly may seem really important. I find that I am not accommodating to anything he does, good or bad. He can not win, no matter what he does. His apology is not accepted no matter what he says or does. I am suffering Hysteria, I am sexually frustrated!

Honestly, the best way to get over it and move on with way more important things is to let out the frustration. I don’t mean by yelling, I mean by shagging.

Orgasms bring peace and balance back to my relationship. There is no reason to have a low sex drive when you can re-channel your sexual frustration into passionate orgasm-making! Try it. Next time your partner has made you really mad or, for some reason, you are mad at them, think about how long it has been since you have had an orgasm and use the frustration to the best of its ability.

There are some great natural libido products out there available to help boost your libido, which I enjoy. Although, I think there is nothing better than relieving Hysteria by, instead of getting mad, getting into bed. And for the single ladies out there, there are an amazing range of vibrators available that will do a stunning job as well.

Stay tuned for my next article on how to make the transition from frustration to love making, there is a trick to it that takes some practice but, honestly ladies, I have mastered it and so can you!

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  • lol i haven’t had an issue lol. i think that you should be talking with your partner and going from there


  • Thank you for your comments ladies. I enjoyed writing this article all in the name of fun. Thanks for letting me share with you what I do to release tension and keep my relationship in a healthy balance as well. Check out my new website http://www.kickstartyourlibido.com I would LOVE your support. Best wishes, Liz Stringer @ Miracle Minded


  • Never had this problem either.


  • Agree with other comments. It’s rather simplistic to put it down to sexual frustration and “hysteria” which is quite an offensive term. It also generalises, as most articles do on the matter, that women have lower libidos than their husbands and will feel much better if they get their partner into bed. What if part of the frustration is the lack of intamicy shown by their partner, should we all just go buy a vibrator and talk to it about our feelings?

    • Hysteria is such an old fashioned term and the history behind hysteria is quite awful.


  • There are various reasons for frustrations and there are many ways to relieve them, some by communication and some by intimacy.


  • Like others say, I think so too that there is a difference between sexual and other frustration. One thing I do know that when I’m frustrated with my husband about something he does / not does I absolutely don’t have the desire to be intimate with him, lol.


  • I quite often just cannot be bothered. It’s just another job to do sometimes. And I don’t know why because when I partake, I really enjoy it and think I should do it more


  • Having a high sex drive can be frustrating if your partner isn’t in the mood. I also think getting frustrated with my husband isn’t always because I am sexually frustrated.


  • I think there’s a difference between sexual frustration and other frustrations.


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