Em Rusciano has today returned to radio on 2DayFM after having time off following her recent miscarriage.
*Trigger warning – this post discusses miscarriage and infant loss*
Em and her co-host Harley Breen took some time in the show to talk about Em’s heartbreak, holding back the tears, the comedian shared her journey with her listeners.
She shared, “I’m finding it very painful to talk about now and I’m reliving it now and I think that you guys writing it on my Facebook page… and I got thousands of emails and letters… I know that would’ve caused you to relive it, also.
“I think it’s something that has rewired my cells and my DNA and you know, you I found myself Googling ‘where do I bury my foetus?’ Which is something that is so dark and bizarre and if you don’t laugh you cry.
“These are the things you don’t get told about pregnancy and we just assume it’s going to be easy cause my last two pregnancies were so easy… and I just want to address it once today and I was worried every time I laugh and have fun I was betraying his memory… but what I found out in the last 2 weeks is you can be happy and sad at the same time, which is what I have been.
“I had someone come up to me at a dinner on Saturday night and say I was milking my miscarriage and that I need to get over it… and sometime people have been saying to me, ‘you just need to get over it.’
“I only buried my son six days ago and I don’t know that I’ll ever get over that…and I don’t think you get to tell someone there is time limit on their grief…
“I just want to let all the women know that I feel you and I see you and I know that the fact got you through it and you were able to tell me that there is a light under the door has really helped me.”
In February a grieving mum shared her own miscarriage experience to encourage others to break the stigma and talk about it more. Read her story here.
What would you like to say to Em or anyone else dealing with the loss of an infant? We need to help break the stigma and stick it to these people saying mums shouldn’t grieve over a fetus!
If you’ve experienced a miscarriage and need some support, SANDS helpline is available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year – 1300 072 637.
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